. . . to think I deserve the worst now?!

[WhyDidISayThat]

Namechange because I feel so guilty and stupid.

Had an argument with DH just now where I believe he was caught out in a bit of a lie (he said he did something, but actually he didn't, so I believed he lied for an easier life. Nothing terrible - no other women or anything).

I was desperate to convince him that my memory of the conversation was accurate, and swore on our unborn baby's life that he said what I remember him to have said.

Now I'm starting to think I might have been mistaken. I'm 90% sure I'm not, but I feel like I've jeopardised my pregnancy (which has taken many years and many cycles of IVF and a massive amount of heartbreak and sacrifice - it's the most precious thing in the world). I should never have sworn on the baby's life - and I now feel I deserve to lose the baby 😔

Oh goodness, it’s just words, OP. If we had that sort of power, I’d have killed thousands. Please, rest up.

Eh?

OP, that is silly and superstitious. You know that right? I do know how you feel though. I had lots of silly thoughts when I was pregnant with my IVF baby.

...and swore on our unborn baby's life that he said what I remember him to have said.

But even if you misheard, you swore that is what you remembered he said. So even if he didn’t say it, you’re still in the clear .

Sorry, I realise I shouldn’t be buying into this rubbish, but as I said in my last post, I’ve been there.

Op you do not deserve to lose this baby. It was a silly argument, you said something you shouldn't because of the stress it's now causing but you didn't bad Juju your baby.
Forgive yourself, give your bump a cuddle, give DP a cuddle and put it behind you x

A few months ago when I visited my mum she swore on my life that she would quit smoking, and guess what - she hasn’t. I’m still alive and well. I know being pregnant after fertility issues is very stressful and worrying but you’ll be fine. Stop thinking silly thoughts, and enjoy your weekend 😊

@HermioneMakepeace you're a genius. That "logic" makes complete sense to me so I am grabbing it with both hands 😄

I know on one level I'm being silly and dramatic but I'm consumed with anxiety at the moment. It just feels unreal that our dream is finally coming true, I keep expecting it to be taken away from me because cruel things have happened before.

And I'm generally a pretty guilty-feeling person anyway 😬

Sweetheart if every pregnant woman who said/thought something negative while carrying a baby and something bad happened the human race would have died out many years ago
Let it go and sending hugs

This is magical thinking. You can't think (or say) something and then it happens. You wouldn't be thinking what you said might come true if you'd thought or said something positive, like you imagined winning the lottery. The panicky thoughts only gone after a negative thought/speech.

You having said what you said will have absolutely no effect on your pregnancy. Put it out of your mind.

I know, I know - you're right. That's why I came on here, so I could see some sensible, rational viewpoints in black and white. Thank you.

Do I get to blame it on hormones . . . ? 😁

It's a pretty unpleasant expression. Usually people who swear on their children's lives are lying - it's lind of a cliché.

I'd avoid it for that reason.

You haven't hurt your unborn child... how daft.