To be really scared. I think I’m pregnant and I thought I wanted this.

[Walkingthere]

DH and I have two DC, age 3 and 1. Life is very busy, we both work, we have no family nearby and no help except kids in nursery whilst I work. We have been undecided about a third child. Emotionally yes, but practically, no. I had some fertility tests as my periods were really irregular. The results looked not good. Perimenopausal actually. So we panicked, DTD twice with no contraception. I was tracking my cycles as they have been so irregular and I’m pretty sure it happened around the time of ovulation.
Now I’m terrified. I already feel nauseous (is that possible at 7 days after ovulation?).
I’m scared of the extra pressure another baby will add, the toll on my health, the sleepless nights, the effect on my relationship with DH, splitting my time further between my kids, working and juggling everything, earning enough money, my age.
I feel so upset and wish we had given it more thought about whether it was the right decision for us. We hadn’t decided at all to try, but reacted after getting those results. Now I’m just waiting till I can take a test, but I’m scared and I’m looking for advice. Did anyone feel sick so early?
Will it be ok? Those mums who work and have 3? How did you cope?

Obviously no one can tell you for if you are or not but if you are pregnant you don't have to stay pregnant if it's not the right thing for your family. I know you will worry until you know for sure but just for the record I feel sick when I'm worrying about something

Going from 2 to 3 was easier than 1 to 2. It worked out well tub.

^tbh

Thank you fox, I forgot to say I got pregnant instantly the first two times. So the chances are quite high I think.

Thanks floral too. I’m so confused.

I’ve just gone from 2 to 3, work 4 days a week as a teacher (when I go back) and husband also works full time as a teacher. Best thing we did - we came to the conclusion we will never be rich hehe- and what our new baby has brought us has been great- and our other 2 love him to bits! It may seem scary/ but if you are pregnant- embrace it! Xx try not to panic xx

If you are in perimenopause then have a think how you will feel if there isn't another baby later and you choose not to have this one. I always planned to have 1 more and it didn't happen which took some coming to terms with. Of course it's a choice only you can make and whatever decision you make will be with the best intentions.

I have 3 and it's great. Don't panic too much until you know but honestly 3 is lovely.

I also found 2 to 3 easier, they are almost grown up now youngest 17 but I still remember how much joy his birth brought to everyone. I also worked.

2 two 3 is easier than 1 to 2 as said up thread ! My Nan always said what’s for you, you will have ! It may be hard for a few years but you will cope ! I absolutely loved my experience of a 3rd baby ! Hope whatever the outcome that it works out for you all xx