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AIBU?

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To think that my partners family have picked awkward dates?

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silentpoolg · 31/05/2019 19:40

My partner gets a free holiday with his family every year still. I can't go due to work.

I can book leave any time in August, and I like to do one block of 2 weeks. My partner knows this, and we'd planned to go island hopping in Greece. I can't book any holidays until I see how my work schedule is looking, but partners family are control freaks and have to book well in advance.

Anyways. They've chosen to go away 8-14. I know I could fit in two week at the last weeks of August, but this is the most expensive period. It's just really frustrating me that any flight deals I see all seem to bloody fall into the period they are away in somehow argh! Like there is a flight for £102 and then if we go after the dates they are away it's £300.

FFS

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Rafflesway · 31/05/2019 20:35

I not think you have too much of a family problem but more of a DP problem.

One year - fair enough! Every year 🙄

Rafflesway · 31/05/2019 20:36

Don't think! Flaming autocorrect!

Rachelle11 · 31/05/2019 20:37

There is nothing control freak about booking a holiday in advance. As for a man still vacationing with his parents I think it's lovely. Why do men who are close to their family get flamed so much on here?

Kennehora · 31/05/2019 20:41

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Sirzy · 31/05/2019 20:42

Why is it weird that families get on well and want to spend time together?

Even if it’s not something you would do that doesn’t mean it’s weird or wrong.

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 31/05/2019 20:42

Have they got pets? We used to have to book busy-time hols ages in advance because we absolutely had to book kennels/cattery well in advance too, or else there'd be no vacancies.

Evap0ratedM1lk · 31/05/2019 20:44

If you book flights only, they are much cheaper if you book months in advance
August to Greece, is peak holiday season, so they may have booked early to receive a discount

Drum2018 · 31/05/2019 20:45

What's unreasonable is that your dp chooses to go on holiday with his family instead of waiting to see when you are free to go away. Lots of people like to plan ahead so it's not unreasonable that his family book in January. He could choose to say no to that holiday and wait to book something with you.

Purplehammer · 31/05/2019 20:46

A week away with mummy and daddy or two weeks Greek island hopping?
It’ll be the free ice creams that’s clinched the deal.

Namechangeforthiscancershit · 31/05/2019 20:49

Booking for August in January is hardly control freakery. Isn't after Christmas the most common time to book a holiday?

Your workplace is being pretty U not letting you book yet. When will you be able to book?

Constance1234 · 31/05/2019 20:53

So you can’t go on the family holiday due to work but you want to go on holiday the same two weeks? I don’t get it. If you don’t want to go on the family holiday just admit it rather than hiding behind the work excuse!

underneaththeash · 31/05/2019 20:54

If you can book holiday in August, why don't you just go away with your partner and family in August?

I always book holidays way in advance, usually 12 months at least.

CripsSandwiches · 31/05/2019 20:55

Nope, still really weird.

Of course it's not weird don't be so nasty and judgemental. Why would it be fine to go on holiday with friends and not with your family if you love them and enjoy their company. Your comment comes across as downright dimwitted to me! I've never been with mine but would happily do it if we could get organised enough.

ComeAndDance · 31/05/2019 20:56

I think it’s not abnormal or be a control freak to book in January for August. It will also probably allow to have some better prices for the flights/hotel etc...
Your frustration at not finding prices that are ok for you is misdirected. You would probably have the same issue if you were deciding the date together. Unless of course you are planning to choose the dates that work for you and then expect the IL to pay more for the dates you dint want .

Carry on looking OP. I suspect that if you are finding some good deals for the start of August, you will find some for the end of August too. They are never as busy then.

BottleOfJameson · 31/05/2019 20:58

Alot of the posters here come across like they're about 17 and too cool to go on holiday with mum and dad. If you're lucky enough to actually get on well with your family (not true for me unfortunately) what would be so terrible about going away with them? Obviously it's the kind of thing that might not always work as people get partners, kids, want to do their own thing with limited holiday time but it's a perfectly nice idea when it works.

Myimaginarycathasfleas · 31/05/2019 21:00

It's reasonable for your DP's family to book their holiday whenever they want to. Your leave arrangements are not really their problem.

The issue is that your DP, knowing that you are limited as to when and how you can book leave, has nonetheless committed to dates which were bound to be a problem. He needs to work out his priorities. You need to direct your frustration at the right person.

stucknoue · 31/05/2019 21:02

Booking in January is normal, most people have to book holidays from work at the beginning of the year in my experience. Your work is unreasonable to make you wait to book

Tinkobell · 31/05/2019 21:04

So, what you are saying ought to happen OP, is that his family scout the pricing before booking and purposefully book and pay for premium priced weeks so that you may or may not (work schedule dependant) get a clear run at booking your holiday at the cheaper time......? Doesn't actually sound very reasonable of you really does it. The thread is a rant. Just go join them all on the cheaper week - you're available, so pay up for yourself and gate crash!

Eliza9919 · 31/05/2019 21:20

Dp had to confirm those dates in January. It just annoys me that we can't get the holiday we want because they insist on dates and say they can't wait to see what we're doing dates wise.

We've can't go with them, can he?

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