Need some advice

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Beth850 · 31/05/2019 19:32

My child 3 months old just split with father cut along story short he made me and my oc homeless last year chucked us out his house then found out was pregnant said he wanted to support me and be a family so carried on with relationship living separately hescbarely gave me any support during pregnancy and since babys here. First 2 weeks of babys life he just spent in bed asleep wasbt interested in baby. Hes not on birth certificate as was asleep in bed didn't get up. Hes been violent toward me smashed my stuff from phones to doors to my car window. Hes give me black eye bruises. Hes took my son off me and wudnt give him me back. Now hes saying hes taking me to court he wants 50/50 access were do I stand?

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Fatasfooook · 31/05/2019 19:37

Have you contacted the police about the black eye?

Walkamileinmyshoesbeforeujudge · 31/05/2019 19:37

Have you got your baby back? Report the violence to the police. He isn't on the BC so has zero rights.

He can apply to court to be put on... Not likely he will bother imo.

Aquamarine1029 · 31/05/2019 19:39

Report him to the police and cease any and all contact. No texts, no calls, no emails. If he shows up at your door call the police.

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Beth850 · 31/05/2019 19:41

Yeah they've got it documented as he smashed 1 phone so ordered a new one he took that off me so rang police I've got videos of his anger hes on depression tablets. I'm just scared his going to get 50/50. He wants 3 nights 1 week 4 the next .

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Aquamarine1029 · 31/05/2019 19:43

He's not on the birth certificate. He has no rights.

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Beth850 · 31/05/2019 19:43

Yeah I've got my son back now he done that twice to me.

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Beth850 · 31/05/2019 19:45

Has any1 been through this and is it a long process if does take me to court?

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Aquamarine1029 · 31/05/2019 19:57

Don't ever let him take your baby again!

Missingstreetlife · 31/05/2019 20:13

Call women's aid and get legal advice. He won't get 50/50 of a baby, esp if bf. At best(worst) he can get supervised contact. You need to get away, surprised police didn't alert social services to help you. Good luck. It can drag on but his lawyer will tell him he's got no chance. Have no contact, he's just using it to have a go at you.

TestingTestingWonTooFree · 31/05/2019 20:16

I agree that you must continue to pursue this with the police - tell them he’s threatening a 50:50 arrangement. This may help you get legal aid. Find a family law solicitor and see if you can make an appointment to apply for legal aid.

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