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tararaboomdeay72 · 31/05/2019 14:48

I'm currently off sick for HG and have been for about 5 weeks now. Starting to feel a bit better thanks to being on ondansetron but have been hospitalised 3 times and was barely able to leave my bed.
My boss has been ok, hard to get a hold of on the phone, even when I phone for a weekly update, just get voicemail. But she doesn't bother me and understands it seems and knows I need time etc.
My problem is with my co worker. I thought we were friends but she doesn't seem to care. It's been me that's email her privately (this is how we usually communicate) to ask how she is and update her.
I emailed her last Friday and nothing. I know she checks her emails every night so I feel she is just straight up ignoring me. I get that she's having to do extra work and that's not fun but it's not like I'm having a jolly holiday! It's only me and her and a bunch of volunteers in work usually so staffing is an issue, but I know she's getting her days off and extra support from my manager.
I just feel so hurt. We've worked together 9 years and I really consider her a friend.
When I was pregnant 3 years ago she ended up being off sick for 6 weeks. In that time I kept in touch as I was concerned about how she was. Didn't speak about work. Just wanted to make sure she was ok.
I just feel like she couldn't care less and she obviously doesn't understand how serious HG is. She looks down on people who are off sick unless they are dying!
I don't think I'm being unreasonable, maybe I am. Just would be nice to be shown that she cares! A quick email, not expecting flowers and bedside visits!

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palahvah · 31/05/2019 14:49

If she's having to do extra work she just might not have had time. Don't read too much into it.

madcatladyforever · 31/05/2019 14:50

What's HG?

Namechangeforthiscancershit · 31/05/2019 14:54

She is a colleague not a friend. Lower your expectations and if she surprises you then great.

tararaboomdeay72 · 31/05/2019 14:55

She's not doing extra hours. Just her usual and my manager has given her extra support . So I really doubt she hasn't had time.
HG hyperemesis gravadium(s) extreme sickness and nausea in pregnancy

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tararaboomdeay72 · 31/05/2019 14:56

I stated in my post she is a friend.

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UnicornBrexit · 31/05/2019 14:58

@madcatladyforever - morning sickness

Hyperemesis gravidarum (HG) is a pregnancy complication that is characterized by severe nausea, vomiting, weight loss, and possibly dehydration. Feeling faint may also occur.

Gingernaut · 31/05/2019 14:59

Hyperemesis Gravidarum.

A severe form of pregnancy induced cyclical vomiting which can be life threatening.

Women may have to be taken to hospital for rehydration, refeeding and drug therapy in order to get some nutrition into them

Houseonahill · 31/05/2019 15:28

It's hurtful but she has shown her true colours, she's not a friend unfortunately. Good luck with the rest of your pregnancy and I hope the HG eases soon it's horrible.

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