There are 6 people in my friendship group. 5 went to school together, and me.
A big gig was announced. One person held 6 tickets, nobody really replied, tickets were lost. Two people had a bit of a moan about not going, a different person managed to find 5 tickets for sale at double face value and bought them thinking everyone else would pay them back.
I wasn't invited to the gig. I was there when it was discussed, in the background, but I knew there weren't enough tickets.
I don't know why, I've largely stayed out of it, but it now appears that only 2 people are going. I encouraged the person with the tickets to try and sell them at face value to recoup some of the loss. I did not offer to go.
It has now become apparent that it was believed I'd go if there were spare tickets. I don't really know why. I can't afford it, although not all of them would know that - I'm newly self-employed and this has been an expensive month! I've also got meetings planned on both days that I'd need to cancel or move.
The gig has been largely slated online, so I expect it would be hard to sell tickets now. I feel bad that someone is going to lose so much money, but I really don't want to go. I'd probably have a laugh with my friends, but I'm already in the middle of a bipolar episode and I've really struggled this week. I don't want anyone to be upset.
AIBU to say I can't go and apologise? Should I offer to pay something? At no time has the person who bought the tickets said she has one for me, or invited me at all.