You're a good mum?

[clairemcnam]

AIBU to get irritated when people say this on MN to someone? They literally have no idea if the OP is a good mum or not. Yes fine to say something like - doing x does not make you a bad mum. Or you are obviously trying to get help from everywhere that should be helping. But it might be that the OP who posts about not taking the kids out to activities every weekend and is being reassured that that is fine and being told she is a good mum, is also hitting her children whenever she gets angry. You don't know. You have no idea at all from the tiny bit she has written whether she is a good mum or not.

What a ridiculous post. This site is supposed to be about support and no you can't tell what someone is doing from the snippet they put but A) if someone is a wild child abusing monster they probably aren't going to be posting worried about whether little jonny gets enough time in the sun and B) you can make a judgement based on what you do know and what they have said, if they did turn out to be a child abuser or some such but they posted about only going to soft play once a year you aren't condoning child abuse because that hasn't been mentioned. Stop assuming everyone is a monster and support people who are asking for it.

A headmaster once told me, the biggest abuse we enact on our children is (a) lack of quality time (b) constant organises activities and micromanagement (c) lack of discipline.

We comment on snippets given. Which, at best, is a tiny snapshot of someone’s life? Most of us parent as best we can.