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Leaving a job I've only been in for 3 months?

39 replies

Willowwisp23 · 30/05/2019 19:54

Oh wise people of Mumsnet, I need some advice/a kick up the arse!

I started back at work early this year after 4 years as a sahm. My job got me out of the house and give me the opportunity to use my brain which I feel I didn't do much in those 4 years at home.

I quite like the job however it is low pay and I am not entitled to things my colleagues are such as bank holiday pay, sick pay, etc. I also am not a huge fan of my boss. As I say though, I like the job (or at least I like being at work) and the people.

I saw another job advert for a company that actively perused me a number of years ago. At the time I wasn't interested but this time I felt like I had to look into it.

I applied for and subsequently got offered this other job today. This job is better pay and with a bigger company that is offering more opportunities. My new boss also seems more human than my current boss. It is also less hours which would give me more spare time.

I now feel extreme anxiety at the thought of handing my notice in tomorrow. They will not be happy I'm moving on so quickly and I'll have to work there another 4 weeks before my notice period is up. I'm also questioning is this the right move. My husband thinks it's a great opportunity and I should take it and think of what's best for myself and my family and not a company I've only been with a few months.

My question really is, what would you do and how do I word my resignation?

I'm the past I have stayed far too long at jobs I wanted to leave due to my fear of handing my notice in and what people will think. Pathetic I know!

Any advice appreciated.

OP posts:
StealthPolarBear · 30/05/2019 19:56

Do it! If you're poorly paid and poorly treated in comparison to colleagues they won't be surprised. Congratulations :)

Joopy · 30/05/2019 19:56

Go for it, no need to feel guilty

TestingTestingWonTooFree · 30/05/2019 19:56

Go for it!

lanbro · 30/05/2019 19:57

Why are you not entitled to bank holiday or sick pay? Surely these are statutory requirements?

Twickerhun · 30/05/2019 19:57

Your husband is right. Try not to worry, you’ll be out of there soon.

Minimal wording on resignation letter - I’m giving you my notice, found a better role for me, I wish you all well, bye!!

Candleglow7475 · 30/05/2019 19:57

Go for it, just tell them the new job has better benefits that’s why you are resigning- there’s nothing wrong with saying that.

Mari50 · 30/05/2019 19:57

Of course you should leave...

Polarbearflavour · 30/05/2019 19:58

It’s just a job, they would have no qualms about getting rid of you! Go for it.

SweatyUnderboob · 30/05/2019 19:59

Just say you’ve been offered an amazing opportunity with a package that was too good to pass up but thank them graciously for your time there.

thenightsky · 30/05/2019 20:02

Do it. I once started a job on NYE and left on 16th March. I got lots of congratulations from my fellow workmates. Boss wasn't too impressed, but understood I'd moved for a better package.

Watchingthetelly · 30/05/2019 20:05

Congratulations on the new job! If your current company wanted to keep you, they should treat their employees better.

Polarbearflavour · 30/05/2019 20:12

In a few weeks / months, nobody at your old workplace will remember you.

Napqueen1234 · 30/05/2019 20:16

Go for it! I handed my notice after being in a job 12 weeks and when I explained the reasons they were very understanding. Good luck with your new job!

SemperIdem · 30/05/2019 20:18

Do it. Misplaced loyalty to shit work places holds too many people back.

Peperpiperpickedwrong · 30/05/2019 20:20

Do it. Congratulations. I left my 15 year job will the following, just put:

Dear boss
Please accept this as notice to terminate my employment. My last working day will be.......

Willowwosp23

TanyaChix · 30/05/2019 20:20

Do it and don’t even think twice. Life is too short to make yourself unhappy!

Queenoftheashes · 30/05/2019 20:21

Definitely do it. Sounds like guilt is the only thing stopping you.. I’d just say it isn’t working out for me.

Original poster
Willowwisp23 · 30/05/2019 20:22

Thanks everyone. I know this will be a good move. To clarify, I don't get paid if sick (which I've never been so no big deal there) and everyone else automatically gets paid their bank holidays. I only get paid if I use one of my few holidays for it.

OP posts:
MsVestibule · 30/05/2019 20:22

Why is this even a question?!! Just go! Imagine how much you'll regret staying.

TipseyTorvey · 30/05/2019 20:24

Totally go for it!! Do not hesitate for one more second. Your current company would turf you out in a heartbeat if they suddenly needed to cut costs. Work loyalty isn't what it was anymore so do what works for you and your family. Congratulations!!

LeSquigh · 30/05/2019 20:26

Definitely do it and don’t work your notice if you don’t want to either. I doubt you would have to as you’d been there such a short time and even if they say you have to, what can they do?

dollydaydream114 · 30/05/2019 20:28

Of course you should take the job you've been offered. Nobody has any obligation whatsoever to stay in a job they don't like - it doesn't matter if you've been there three days, three months or three years, you are entitled to hand in your notice whenever you want.

I've had colleagues once or twice who have only stuck in a job for a couple of months before getting offered something much better or just deciding their role wasn't for them. It's fine! You can leave.

Original poster
Willowwisp23 · 30/05/2019 20:53

I know, I know I'm far too concerned about what people think, usually strangers more than people who actually know me. You're right as well, my boss would get rid of me without a seconds thought if he suddenly decided he couldn't afford me.

Whilst this new opportunity is more money there may be room for negotiation. It's through a job agency so they will negotiate for me. What do you say when hoping for better pay? Is it up to me to suggest a figure? Should I lie and say my current job has offered me X amount to stay?!!!!

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DuffBeer · 30/05/2019 20:57

I would leave without a backwards glance.

Don't apologise to them!

Hecateh · 30/05/2019 22:29

Also, not a lot they can do if you choose not to work your notice.

I'm not necessarily recommending that but I did it with one job as I was twiddling my thumbs most of the day - probably about half an hour work to do each day which was one of the big reasons I was moving on - I was so bored.