Aibu to be annoyed?

[chardonm]

This is not a major one and am only a little annoyed but would like others' perspective.

Our nursery does not provide wipes and nappies; we have to drop off and when they run out they let us know.

Last night I picked up DS and they told me we needed to bring wipes. This morning DH dropped off DS without wipes (forgot to tell DH he needed to) and apparently the lady that took in DS was really annoyed with DH and told him that next time she would tell DH not me that they needed something.

I am annoyed because I think they should give us more heads up than one evening that something needs topping up and also I have been the one bringing the majority of supplies so far.

Am I just being precious here?

you are being precious, they told you

Yanbu, would it have killed them to use some of their own and remind you once more.
Our nursery also doesnt provide them, but will give you a few days to bring in. They also provide jackets or clothes from the spares box if you forget to send an extra set and child messed them.

They probably can't keep a tab on everyone's supply of wipes and nappies so they remind you as they become aware

No need for snippiness on their part though- we all forget things

You weren’t actually there, so are you sure about the tone of voice?

Stick 5 nappies and a packet of wipes in both your cars / under buggy (however you pick up) and keep them there so you can always hand over as soon as asked.

Let this one go.

DH said she sounded very annoyed!

It is a minor issue. My nursery didn't provide wipes or nappies. On the occasional time I forgot (literally twice in 3xDC x4 years each) /too little notice) I brought in extra wipe packet next time and extra nappies to replace their spare stock. I suspect your DH said "something" when challenged (indicating he would have sorted it if told - 🙄 ) that caused content of their text.
I'd be inclined to say "im very sorry, I do all the shopping and drop offs normally & it was a genuine mistake, of lurse we will replace. But if you'd prefer to deal with and text DH,go for it and I'll ask him to step up and do the shopping and drop offs 😆"

You should have a back up pack or so of nappies and wipes in the house, that you can just send in when he needs more, as such no need to go out.

And yes you're being unreasonable, you know you need to supply them, there is no reason you can't keep some spare packs in the house and you shouldn't have forgot your kid needed the wipes.

That's why I keep spare wipes and nappies in the car as I always forget! That doesn't help if you don't drive to nursery though.

I don’t think it’s a big issue to only give you one day of notice. Most parents will have nappies and wipes at home. And if they don’t, you know the system - so keep some. They would probably find that if they give a week’s notice “we’re getting low” then more people wouldn’t bring them in time as there’s less urgency. So though it sounds last minute I expect they’ve learned the best way is to say “more wipes tomorrow please!”

They can use spares, but I bet some parents (not accusing you!) would be constantly not bringing them - so I wouldn’t care about them being firm, but not rude.

Are you sure that your husband wasn’t annoyed that he was getting the telling off, and then deflected it as your fault - at which point that prompted them to say they’d tell him in future?

I know I’m making a lot up there, but you did ask for perspectives!

Ha! I’m glad I’m not the only one that wonders aloud what your husband might actually have said

Bet your DH blamed you when faced with a "where are your wipes we told your DW to bring in tomorrow?"

Look, all parents make occasional mistakes, especially parents do the majority child mental work with full heads of hundreds of other things to do.

It's a minor issue. Take an extra packet of wipes in next time to replenish their spare stock.
It was just a one off oversight as you forgot to tell DH or forgot to out it in baby's bag. Maybe if DH's happy to throw you under the bus, he could do more drop offs, pick ups and shopping himself!

I also wondered what rhe husband said and what he embellished to thr op...I'm guessing he was the annoyed one.

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Look, all parents make occasional mistakes, especially the parents (mum or dad) who do the majority of child mental work with full heads of hundreds of other things to do.

If DH wants to take on being texted by nursery for supplies, let him take over that (but he has to go to shops himself to get it or /& sort out baby bag for the morning!!) ! Show him that he too can have a headfull of nappies and other crap and be the one responsible! ...Or he can back you up and apologise in behalf of you both/pop to shop and collect what is missing with his equally working parental role, brain, (& hopefully...) two arms and two legs.

It is hard to imagine the conversation and how it got to telling him in future, given that they’re obviously just telling whoever picks up there and then.

I didn't even consider that DH may have said something like it was my fault I will investigate...

To add a bit of colour and I promise I am not trying to drip feed; I am very surprised because usually we have a few days to bring them and I know for a fact that she doesn't keep track very well as on one occasion I sent three massive packs of wipes with DS and two days later she said she needed more. Also have had DS come home with the wrong brand of nappy on occasion..

Oh,well maybe nursery lady is wrong too. But since she mentioned DH might be more reliable, I think you ought investigate (as you plan to) what he said and if he did offer that he would be better taking the whole shebang on (if he indicated he can do better. 😆🙄🙄) Wanting to save face. Bloody let him do it! But it's harder work than he realises and don't you save him by letting him project manage you!

Fairs fair 😁😁