To take a cold shower?

[Coldshowerer]

NC as this is bloody embarrassing....

Going through a separation. My choice but his fault. Up until now, I was adamant we’d ultimately divorce. We’ve not had any physical contact since the split, although see each other regularly because of the kids. He’d jump at the chance of any kind of reconciliation.

I’m about 5 months in to the separation and out of nowhere I’ve found myself extremely attracted to be STBXH.

Not just that but I can’t think about anything else. It’s ridiculous.

It’s like someone’s injected me with some kind of female viagra (not sure how else to explain it!) and all I can think about is jumping into bed with him. I’m dreaming about it when I’m asleep and thinking about it all day when I’m awake.

I’m not anywhere near ready to get on Tinder or anything like that, but I’m absolutely craving not just the rude stuff, but the physical contact in general. And, very specifically, with him.

I’ve had to make plans with friends over the weekend because I don’t trust myself to be around when he comes to put the kids to bed.

Help! It’s been a week now! If it doesn’t pass soon, I’m going to have to take myself to the vet to be fixed.....

Invest in a good vibrator. Much more effective than a cold shower.

Purple - I feel like it’s more complicated than that....I feel like I need a bit of human contact!

Sounds like the classic "wanting what you can't have" syndrome. Just remind yourself it's only physical and he's an ex for a reason.

I was single for a few years (with the occasional eight-hour "relationship" thrown in )

I remember one night a male friend came round and gave me a big old bear hug. I promptly burst into tears, because I think I had genuinely forgotten what caring human contact felt like and didn't realise how much I missed it.

But OP stay strong - it will pass

I think I might need to find myself one of these 8 hour relationships!