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Toddler keeps catching headlice of aunties and uncles

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foxandthehound · 30/05/2019 10:19

My dd is only 21 months old but has caught headlice several times from her young paternal uncles and aunties. Their ages range from 5-16years old and theres 6 altogether.

It's a nightmare when my daughter catches them. Shes a bouncy child who cant sit still for long, so its quite difficult to get her to sit down while I run through her hair with a comb.

My ex's mum is very lazy when it comes to getting rid of headlice, she says she sees no point as 'they'll only catch them again'.

I dont want to go no contact over something so silly, but I'm completely fed up of my daughter coming home with a head full of lice.

Wwyd? I haven't tired head lice repellent because my daughter has thin blonde hair and a sensitive scalp, I'm worried it will irritate her skin

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WonderTweek · 30/05/2019 13:00

I wouldn't send my child over until the issue has been sorted. I would also second reporting the mum as it is neglect.

Beautiful3 · 30/05/2019 13:06

I wouldn't send my child there until they treated their headlice. That's awful to not bother. What if it were thread worms? Lazy attitudes rile me.

sleepismysuperpower1 · 30/05/2019 13:12

could you maybe get a hat like this and pop it on before she visits? also, put some tea tree oil in her shampoo as it helps repel the nits.

could you speak to the oldest child and ask her if her head is itchy etc? then maybe offer to sort it for her? you may find that she is grateful for the help. same with the next oldest. then they can treat younger siblings?

Drum2018 · 30/05/2019 13:17

No way would my child be going to that house again. I cannot believe a parent could leave their kids untreated. It's neglect and those poor kids must be tormented with the itch. In any case if your ex can't be bothered with his child I don't see why you should be accommodating visits with his family, especially as they are infesting your child with lice. When you treat your own child are you combing for a few days after treatment in order to clear the eggs 100%?

BrokenWing · 30/05/2019 13:19

my dc wouldn't be there until the problem was resolved. "They will only catch them again" is a lazy, shocking, neglectful attitude which will impact their children's well-being. I wouldn't let my dc be around people like that, and would also have no problems telling them why either.

GrasswillbeGreener · 30/05/2019 14:54

I do believe different people get different levels of symptoms from headlice, but absolutely agree with the consensus on this thread, that unless they will treat the other children, your child stays away.

My daughter had headlice 3 or 4 times through junior school. She didn't get symptoms that made her notice them; each time I only realised because I caught them off her :( I get rather severe symptoms - my scalp feels like it is on fire. Extremely unpleasant and can't be ignored. These children may or may not be coping with having lice, but they will be passing them back constantly to other families who will have children and adults who get really bad effects.

opheliasknickers · 30/05/2019 15:12

sorry but Id be calling social services for those kids. its neglect pure and simple. plus nc till its sorted fullstop. If their mum cant be bothered with headlice, what else can`t she arsed with eh?

tea tree shampoos help. dh worked in primary and always used it. just the £1 alberto balsam one. never caught them even with lice about!

Teddybear45 · 30/05/2019 15:16

Visitation should be with the father not father’s family. Insist on them not seeing her again

Yeahnahmum · 30/05/2019 15:41

Toddler keeps catching headlice . Yeah. Because her mum keeps on sending the kid to a lice infested house for playtime and sleepovers... Hmm

WinterWillow · 30/05/2019 15:46

It's a complete myth that head lice can jump and so ensure that she doesn't let anyone's head touch hers.

Not ideal and I definitely would be NC!

RaptorWhiskers · 30/05/2019 15:52

If MIL is so neglectful that she doesn’t treat headlice then I doubt she’s parenting properly in any other respect either. She’s probably not cleaning the house, cooking proper meals or washing clothes either. And I doubt your DD is safe and properly supervised there. I wouldn’t send my child to a filthy house to play with neglected children and nor should you. Call Social Services.

Catsick36 · 30/05/2019 15:55

Vosene do tea tree shampoo and leave in spray conditioner. I use that for mine -touch wood none here yet.

Chamomileteaplease · 30/05/2019 15:58

Completely agree with RaptorWhiskers - why would you want your tiny daughter in such a house?

Are you with her at the time?

Maybe it's time to take a break from keeping in touch with your ex's family. They don't sound great!

BumandChips · 30/05/2019 15:59

Aldi do ‘anti head lice’ shampoo.

I wouldn’t be sending her there.

EmeraldShamrock · 30/05/2019 22:13

OP how bad are thing in the home, if MIL can't be bothered dealing with head-lice, are the DC looked after other than crawling heads.

Drasticaction · 30/05/2019 22:17

I'm appalled that These children are being left with headlice.

Please anonymously tell someone please ss?

Mum happy too leave headlice? What else is she happy too leave and stop child going there

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