I'm fairly sure it is, but no one around me seemed bothered.
Background for context. I am the source of much fascination in my workplace because I am the breadwinner and my husband is a trailing spouse. The men I work with are amazed and frequently reference how great this must be. I totally respect my husbands contribution to our life, and the sacrifices he is made. But this means I'm kind of used to being told 'I need a woman like that / you'. So far, so normal workplace chat.
I am a constant fidgeter. I have asd and my mind is really loud. Moving stuff in my hand helps me quieten it enough to function. So I've often got three or four different fidgets in me. Some colleagues and I were messing around with them at lunch, and a blok of that doesn't know me super well asked why I had them. I explained, and he said 'I need me a woman like that'. I asked what he meant and he laughed it off, and the conversation moved on.
It's stayed with me, because I can only presume that he meant that he considers other woman to be empty headed or something? This is sexist right? I can't do much if it is, but I can't think what else he could've meant.