To wonder why some people are so unpleasant?

[bluesunflowers]

I was on a really crowded train and there were only limited seats. A man had his phone on one seat so I (very politely) asked if I could sit down - he moved it.

I was looking out of the window and saw a text he was composing (the font was huge - I don’t know if he had a slight VI)

‘Hard to tell great fat thing it nearly sat on me’

I’m OBVIOUSLY female and I didn’t nearly sit on him at all.

How did you see his text if you were looking out of the window?

Some people really are dickheads. He probably was just sulking because you took up the seat he had reserved for his phone.

The angle he had the phone at shit

The font was massive. I certainly wasn’t deliberately looking but it was a case of glancing and taking it in.

I probably shouldn’t be this upset by it. Being referred to as ‘it’ really did get to me though.

He's just a boring tosser trying to make himself and his boring commute sound interesting to whoever he's texting.

'A woman just asked me to move my phone so she could occupy the seat next to me' scores zero on the amusement/interest scale, so he's making things up.

Obviously there's nothing of genuine interest going on in his life, and he hasn't the wit to make himself interesting in any other way.

He's an asshole looking for drama. He would have been a dickhead no matter who sat next to him. He has to be asked to move his phone so someone could sit down on a crowded train, his life is just all about him. Move on don't give him another thought.

Be thankful you weren’t the person on the receiving end of the text. Imagine being married to or friends with such an arse? I would have tempted to push past and step on his toe. Accidentally.

Yeah I think my coffee may have"fell over" as the train jolted.....

How bloody rude he was. And obviously cross that you needed the seat more than his bloody phone.
An angry and miserable bastard.
Or a silly little man trying to make themselves feel more significant by putting down others.
Just an arsehole really. Thank goodness you never have to see them again.

You can only really pity ppl that feel the need to do things like this. He obvs has such little status and respect in life that he feels the need to put a random stranger down just for asking to take the free seat. There's no helping ignorant ppl like this. Hold your head high and forget him.

Thanks

Reddit, I’m really not making it up. I namechanged because to be honest I was a bit embarrassed to post under my usual name. If I did, you would know who I was and you would know I certainly wasn’t a troll.

A similar thing happened to me on a plane. I was sat next to W woman who wrote vile things about me and my children in large letters in her note book.. Since dh had offered to swap seats with her and she’d refused there was very little I could do without the children finding out.. Some people are horrid.

You should practise feeling sorry for people like this; anyone who needs to attack another person for simply existing clearly needs something more in their life. It's presumably the only way he had to vent his ridiculous rage and you've got to feel pity for anyone that pathetic.

How do you know the text was referring to you or was there more to it that you haven't told us here?

Good on you for resisting the temptation to put his phone out the window, you’re a better woman than me

We stayed with a couple once where the husband was constantly writing in his notebook titled ‘Thoughts from the mind of Mr XXX’. I’m sure it included “thoughts” about us. He also scurried in and stripped our bed as soon as we were up.

Very rude. We’re not horrible people, honestly! Some people are just deeply unpleasant. It’s always more about them than you.

You could have gone tit for tat and composed your very own text in HUGE font all about him. Then laid it down on the table, angled towards him...

Probably should have but I was so taken aback I just went and stood near the door (it wasn’t a long journey.)

Must start diet

I may be missing something here but how do you know the text was about you??

@bluesunflowers

Must start diet

Only change if you want to and for your own reasons, not because some entitled prick on a train called you fat.

I wouldn't start a diet based on a random bloke calling you 'fat' - he probably bases his ideas on airbrushed internet images and has no idea what a real woman's body should look like.

I think some people just have a massive chip on their shoulder - day to day must be knackering for them

You should practise feeling sorry for people like this; anyone who needs to attack another person for simply existing clearly needs something more in their life. It's presumably the only way he had to vent his ridiculous rage and you've got to feel pity for anyone that pathetic.

Summed it up perfectly.

Was there a post from Reddit that vanished? I'm confused ...