That just occasionally I don't want to be the grown up?

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I would quite like to, just here and there, be the one who gets to have a proper melt down.

Not have to be the calm mediator.

Not have to be the one that sees both sides of the story.

Not have to be the one that applies rational thinking, maturity,

Fly into a rage at something that REALLY FUCKS ME OFF instead of talking myself down.

Not have to be the fucking parent of everybody - my kids, my husband, the dogs.

And breathe....

I hear you OP. Not just me that feels like this sometimes then!

Do it. The less frequently you lose your shit the more scarier you are when you do

I hear that op.
Just for someone else to take over and not having to do EVERYTHING all the time.
I would go on strike but I don't think anyone would notice for the first 24 hours.
Then there would be questions of where is food and clean clothes while ignoring me sobbing into a bottle of wine in the corner

I once sent my DH a letter resigning from my role as mother, wife and housekeeper.

Yep the same so bloody draining...

@MumW what did he say?

Oh god yes I'm with you.
5 kids a dh and cat and dog here. I know I can't complain because..well I had 5 kids but my god I just want to be invisible 90% of the time.
Today alone-

Dd1 "mum where's my house? I can't find my house key. Have you moved it from the key hook? You've moved it haven't you? Why the hell do you keep moving stuff?" ( I hadn't moved it it was right under her nose.

Ds comes downstairs with huge pile of ironing in his arms. " mhm I'm off to work can you have these washed and dried before 5 please, I'm staying at joes after work until Sunday. Thanks bye.. oh have you seen my red Levi boxers anywhere? I need them too if you find them thanks bye" I didn't even get to answer him before he fucked off out the door!

Dd2 going through the neatly folded clothes on the dinning room table looking for her jeans and creasing everything in the process! Fuck off!!!!
" mum I need my black jeans are they in here? I'm going cinema and Nando's have you got any money please? I've got £20 just need another tenner" IM NOT MADE OF FUCKING MONEY. I GAVE YOU £50 ON SATURDAY!

Dd3 mum mum mum mum mum mum. Can I have a snack please? Repeat 10000 times.

Dd4 touches me. Climbs on me. Taps me. Bashes into me! I'm all touched,tapped,talked and bashed out thanks now please remove yourself from my presence.

Dh comes in from a days work of not being tapped, bashed, climbed on, talked too. "What's for dinner? Is my gym clothes washed? Why is this child eating chocolate 10 minutes before dinner? WELL I DONT FUCKING KNOW, IM JUST ABOUT PARENTED OUT FOR ONE DAY SO THEY CAN EAT STEAMING HOT SHIT FOR ALL I CARE! 🖕🏼

Sorry about that long rant 🤦🏻‍♀️

Oh and why do they always come to us mums for something. Mum can I have a drink. Mum can you open this. Mum can you wipe my bum. I feel like screaming. ASK YOUR FATHER, YOU HAVE TWO FUCKING PARENTS!

lucymegan Yes!!! Why don't my kids ever ask their dad to do anything? They will literally walk past him to get to me, to ask me to do something he could have done for them

My children will calmly ignore their father, sitting in the kitchen, and come all the way upstairs to find me, where I am staring at my phone folding laundry, to whine at me for a snack.

For the love of god, why? Whhhyyyyyy???

@MumW what did he say?

@CastleCrasher, it acted as a wake up call and opened up a conversation about how difficult things can be at home all day with 2 children. It shocked him when I told him I'd left the school gates at 9am after a particularly stressful time getting them out the door and my first thought was "god I could really do with a glass of wine".

My children will calmly ignore their father, sitting in the kitchen, and come all the way upstairs to find me, where I am staring at my phone folding laundry, to whine at me for a snack.

For the love of god, why? Whhhyyyyyy???

Probably because they've learnt that DF doesn't hear/ listen to them or he's on autopilot and said "ask your Mum" 🙁

Glad it's not just me then.

Although, and this is worse I think, DH is probably the least well behaved of everyone including my two DSs, who are 14 and 12. Don't get me wrong they do all of the above . But because he gets to get REALLY ANNOYED ABOUT THINGS THAT REALLY ANNOY HIM there just never seems to be any room left for me to. As I am being the calm reasonable parent to balance everything out!

And I just don't get annoyed about as much as he does. His tolerance and patience levels are zero. And I think we all enable them to be.

How about we all strike? The national union of mums hereby calls one day of inaction on behalf of overworked mums everywhere.