“Your Baby Is Using You Like A Dummy!”

[AiryFairyMum]

A mum friend said this to me when my baby was little, and it worried me at the time. Now she's telling it to our other friends with small babies. I want to step in and say "No, a dummy is an artificial nipple. A synthetic, plastic comforter and it's perfectly natural for a baby to look to its mum for comfort as well as nutrition."
I'm not saying 'Your baby is treating that dummy like your breast!' each time, but I still don't know how she'd take it.
Would IBU to try to contradict her to our friends?

Siameasy

'What used to wind me up was the oh well done at BFing thing like you’re a hero. Then after 6m it’s disgusting'

A lot of the support also disappears after 6 months!

I had the same with both DM and MIL OP. Along with 'give him a bottle of formula to give yourself a break'.

And if you even dared moan about sore nipples, 'See! I told you so!'

Thank God for supportive DH!

I really hated these stupid comments too. Ands agree with pp that ff is so ingrained in our culture that normal newborn behaviour is frowned upon. I had it from a HV (along with lots of other incorrect and damaging advice). Pg with no 2 and am opting out of having a HV this time.

Next time your friend mentions or agree and point out that you also hope she doesn't have sex with her husband and 'use him as a vibrator'