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Paranoid we'll be kicked out the theatre!

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SpotsAreAppearing · 29/05/2019 21:48

My DD is finally over the chicken pox. (Broke our on Friday Sunday was pure hell for her, poor girly, but yesterday she was almost herself, no new spots and blisters all scanned. And today she's been so happy and bright.

Great timing as we have tickets for her favourite west end show tomorrow. And she'd have been devastated to miss it.

Problem is - and I will admit I'm a worrier - she still has a lot of scabby red pox on her face/neck.

It's just her and I going so she'll be next to a stranger, and of course in crowds to get in.

Now, I'm confident she's no longer contagious, is already discussed giving the tickets to friends if she hadn't have recovered in time.

But I'm worrying either the theatre will say "no" or someone there will complain about her?

I'm just being crazy, right?

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SpotsAreAppearing · 29/05/2019 21:50

Sorry did not proof read that! Apologies for the missing punctuation!

Scanned = scabbed.

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LuckyAmy1986 · 29/05/2019 21:53

You’re not being crazy no, if I saw and noticed her spots then I would probably mention it to staff or ask you about it - I’m sure someone will

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SpotsAreAppearing · 29/05/2019 21:55

Fuck. Should I try and get a doctors note I wonder?

Just seems such overkill.....

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AnneElliott · 29/05/2019 21:56

If they've scabbed over them she's no longer contagious? If it's just the unsightly scabs you're worried about, can she not wear a scarf or high necked top?

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SpotsAreAppearing · 29/05/2019 21:59

I'm thinking of keeping her hair down and thankfully her arms didn't really get any.

The theatre can get quite warm and I feel like a scarf would look even more suspicious.

I guess if worse comes to worse I'll just have to explain the situation to someone. She's had such a shitty week and this show is the most important thing in her 6yo world.

Don't want her to feel like she's caused a problem. Stupid pox.

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twirlypoo · 29/05/2019 21:59

To be honest I would be wary as well and would probably want someone to ask you if she was contagious. My sister is undergoing chemo at the moment, and I just wouldn’t want to take the chance with out double checking.

LuckyAmy1986 · 29/05/2019 22:00

If I were you I’d probably just go and hope for the best. Cover as much as possible but I would be prepared for someone to ask/comment tbh. I agree a doctors note does seem like overkill!

YorkshirePuddingsGreatestFan · 29/05/2019 22:03

I'm immunocompromised and I would ask. If you assured me they were scabbed over and she wasn't contagious, I'd be fine.

A girl in front of me on a flight once was covered in scabs. I politely asked if it was chicken pox and they said it was eczema. I explained why I asked and they were pleased I'd said something rather than sitting behind worrying in case I caught chicken pox!

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SpotsAreAppearing · 29/05/2019 22:05

Thanks ladies.

We'll both be very honest if people ask us. I just don't want her getting upset.

My mum is currently having chemo so I 100% know the worry and wouldn't have taken her anywhere public before they were scabbed.

Not that I could have. She refused to wear any clothes at that point!

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XXcstatic · 29/05/2019 22:06

Here is the official NHS guidance, confirming that chickenpox is not infectious once scabbed over. You can show it to anyone who complains.

LadyMacbethWasMisunderstood · 29/05/2019 22:07

Are you really sure they are properly all scabbed over and this is not just wishful thinking? I’ve never know them to scab over in less than a week. Much more like 10 days ( and I’ve been there done that 5 times). If they really are then I’d just brazen it out and tell anyone who asks that she is no longer contagious. But you really do need to be sure that you are right.

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SpotsAreAppearing · 29/05/2019 22:09

Thanks. We're 2 days scabbed (will be 3 tomorrow) and 7 days from the onset.

So I can hopefully calm anyone who worries with the numbers.

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SpotsAreAppearing · 29/05/2019 22:12

@LadyMacbethWasMisunderstood yes.

All dark red scabs.

Some of the smaller spots never blistered and are already disappearing.

She's been having oat/head and shoulders baths 2/3 times a day with Poxclin mousse after each one.

Zero blisters at all today.

A boy in her class who had it last week was back after 5 days (had it rather mild) and her friend (the one she caught it off) was back 6 days from onset and all scabbed.

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PeoniesarePink · 29/05/2019 22:18

I think someone will complain, then you have to deal with DD being there and being told you can't stay.

I'm sorry but I've seen kids with chickenpox out mixing with other kids and I've always complained. It's really irresponsible, and you're putting your own needs before hundreds of other peoples.......

BlackeyedGruesome · 29/05/2019 22:28

but she is no longer infectious, and has stayed in for the period she was infectiousso she has been putting others needs first.

starsparkle08 · 29/05/2019 22:33

If the theatre haven't got anything specified in their terms and conditions they cannot discriminate .
People cannot live in a bubble every time you go out your in contact with those who have or are recovering from chicken pox - supermarkets \ doctors surgeries /
People touch things wherever they go ...
Same as when people have viral infections .
The most infectious point with chicken pox is said to be before the spots even erupt .

You will be fine at the theatre .
I think if you were travelling by plane things may be different as they have more conditions before flying ?

PeoniesarePink · 29/05/2019 22:34

Zero blisters at all today

Presumably meaning that yesterday there was.

Myshinynewname · 29/05/2019 22:36

It sounds too soon to me.

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SpotsAreAppearing · 29/05/2019 22:36

@PeoniesarePink

No. None yesterday either. Which I why I think she didn't itch yesterday. The majority was on Saturday, a couple of new ones Sunday.

No new ones Monday but the ones she did have gave her a lot of grief.

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Isithometimeyet0987 · 29/05/2019 22:53

Personally I would tell staff about you as I have a close family member undergoing chemo who I care for, I couldn’t risk getting ill (I know very rare as an adult who’s had them as a child but does happen) if I can help it.

MyDcAreMarvel · 29/05/2019 22:54

*Thanks. We're 2 days scabbed (will be 3 tomorrow) and 7 days from the onset.

So I can hopefully calm anyone who worries with the numbers.*
But Friday was only six days ago.

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SpotsAreAppearing · 29/05/2019 22:59

Yes closed the bracket too soon.

Tomorrow will be 7.

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ineedaholidaynow · 29/05/2019 23:03

Could you phone the theatre and explain. Say that she isn't contagious but that some people may feel uncomfortable sitting near her and are there any seats they could move you to, maybe aisle one.

GruciusMalfoy · 29/05/2019 23:04

It seems really quick to me, for her to have them all stabbed over. But if you're confident that's the case, you wouldn't be wrong to take her.

Ivestoppedreadingthenews · 29/05/2019 23:04

Honestly I doubt anyone will say anything... people are more reserved in real life than they say they are on the internet.

For my own peace of mind I would ring 111 or practice nurse for their confirmation. Then in the unlikely event anyone says anything, you politely explain she is no longer contagious and have sought medical advice. End of story.

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