Mandatory to be classed as a 'vulnerable woman'?

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I've been for my booking appointment today. I'm 19.
The midwife explained that it is mandatory to put in some sort of referral for 'vulnerable women' as I'm under 20. I agreed but it didn't sit right, especially since DM (has worked as a GP receptionist) clarified that it comes up in big flashing letters on medical files etc that you're vulnerable.

It doesn't sit right with me that just because a person is under 20 they're classed and documented as 'vulnerable'. Surely there's a lot of other mums who are over 20 and actually vulnerable but wouldn't have that assumption automatically made about them?

AIBU here or is there anything I can do about this?

At 19 you're less likely to have money, partner support, parental support, a stable home or job than a 32 yo so I can see why they'd do it.

Just because you do doesn't mean most 19yos do.

• @CherryPavlova ‘statisticaly’ perhaps but that doesn’t mean you sheep dip everyone with the same treatment.*

Agreed, but medicine is run and services are offered based on population statistics. 19 year olds, as a population, are likely to be more vulnerable than older mothers. On an individual basis this may not apply, but we have to run with the probabilities.

OP if you really hate the idea of having this on your notes, ask for it to be removed. However, having it there really won't affect you negatively in any way.

I had similar when I had my first: I was 24. The midwife who did my booking in put that I was a young mother. I did not in any way need that title as a married woman, with my own house, car and career, I felt personally offended by the terms.
I told the next midwife I saw who removed it from my files, although they still advised me to attend their “young mothers class” (which was incredibly offensive) and again they were informed.
It took them two or three times to get it, but at that point I was like a dog with a bone. It might take a while, but keep saying that you find it personally offensive and they will eventually get it.