I’ve been with my partner a long time and we have young children. We’ve had a rocky couple of years and the one common theme is a lack of being able to resolve any arguments. Whatever the disagreement is, as soon as I try to start a chat about the situation, he becomes angry and gets up and leaves. This would be fine if we could then come together at a later date/time to go through the conflict and get to a resolution but that never happens. I’ve tried but he refuses to engage in that process and I’m basically shut down. That means that I’m left to deal with whatever the issue was without resolution or chatting it through. I just wondered if I’m BU to expect some sort of conflict resolution process and how others do this in their long term relationships? I’m feeling pretty resentful and bitter right now and I think that’s because I’m never able to air any grievances in a constructive manner. Our most recent disagreement I tried emailing him my thoughts and feelings, as once again, the moment I opened my mouth he got up and left the room. I then got back a vitriolic reply, accusing me of trying to control the conversation and then saying that he refuses to engage with me any more in the future on my terms. This has left me in a position where it’s impossible to voice my needs or issues with our relationship and for us to resolve anything or agree to disagree...is that normal? For what it’s worth, I have my own counsellor who is also a bit flummoxed by his approach. My partner has then spent the following week trying to hug and kiss me and engage in “normal” chat but there’s still this underlying argument that never got resolved. Any advice would be really appreciated!