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Original poster

To accept a job knowing I’ll be leaving

80 replies

Polarbearflavour · 29/05/2019 14:51

I’ve accepted a job in the NHS (non-clinical) and they are doing all the pre-employment checks.

DH is a military officer and has been offered an accompanied posting abroad which would be really exciting - obviously I’m going with him!

WIBU to start this job in a couple of weeks only to quit in several months - before the end of year? I’m not working at the moment and it would be nice to have some extra savings behind me as I won’t be working when we are abroad...

I’m also rather bored at home all day! There is no temping going where I live, the only office jobs in abundance are NHS admin roles.

I’m very aware that any employer could get rid of me without any qualms so I’m struggling to feel any loyalty to the fifth biggest employer in the world.

OP posts:
viques · 29/05/2019 18:08

Am I the only person thinking recruitment costs the NHS money and that taking a job you know you are going to leave in a couple of months costs the NHS money it can't afford . I get what people have written about the problems military families face but I wonder if next time the HR department at that hospital are recruiting they will look a bit more critically at applications from military families and wonder if it is worth their while calling them to interview.

Waveysnail · 29/05/2019 18:13

I work for NHS. We are hugely understaffed. Takes lots to get a new member of staff, train them, sign them off. I'd be really annoyed if you were in my office.

franklymydearidontgivea · 29/05/2019 18:17

The NHS has signed up to the armed forces covenant

www.nhsemployers.org/news/2018/07/the-nhs-confederation-signs-the-armed-forces-covenant

Original poster
Polarbearflavour · 29/05/2019 18:18

I found out about the posting yesterday. The NHS has already interviewed me, done my references and DBS.

I’m hardly going to say no to this posting and stay in a city on my own, unhappy, for an NHS band 4 admin job.

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PuppyMonkey · 29/05/2019 18:20

I’m all a bit Hmm about the blase attitude “oh it’s only the nhs so it doesn’t really matter if you muck them around.” I assume you’ll probably be dropping colleagues in it when you leave after a few weeks. But who cares?

Original poster
Polarbearflavour · 29/05/2019 18:21

I’ve learned in this life that you have to put yourself first. DH is serving his country after all.

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starzig · 29/05/2019 18:24

Wouldn't want to be the poor sod that stays extended hours to train you for you to bugger off. But yeah you go for it.

Original poster
Polarbearflavour · 29/05/2019 18:28

Thanks for your support starzig - I’m looking forward to getting out of the house and earning some money to fund my coffee and cake when I’m abroad. Brew Cake

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viques · 29/05/2019 18:30

ive learned in this life that you have to put yourself first

DH is serving his country after all

I think a little unintentional irony in those two sentences.

daisypond · 29/05/2019 18:31

The NHS, like many big organisations, often “lets people go”, to put it politely. I know of a few. Managers protect each other, the lowest down the chain takes the flak, whistleblowers go to the wall, people lie to protect their jobs, etc. It’s not a cosy place.

starzig · 29/05/2019 18:32

DH will hardly be doing it for free. It is a job like any other. No more, no less important than anyone else's.

TheDarkPassenger · 29/05/2019 18:33

If you’ve followed in military I would be very shocked if your dbs is back by next week if they only just sent it today/yesterday

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Polarbearflavour · 29/05/2019 18:36

I can see that my DBS has been completed online.

Oh well, it’s just a job and nobody is irreplaceable. Smile

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SteelRiver · 29/05/2019 18:40

It sounds like you look down on this job, even think its beneath you. I think you shouldn't take the job; leave it for someone who wants and needs it. The cost of training staff (for organisations both large and small) is enormous and I don't think I'd be impressed if I was the one spending a lot of time training someone who left after 3 months.

PCohle · 29/05/2019 18:42

You seem to post an awful lot about your various woes in public sector jobs.

franklymydearidontgivea · 29/05/2019 18:53

Polarbear,. Ignore all the negative nellies on here, until they have walked a day in your shoes they have no idea, take the opportunity that you have been given, there is a new awareness of the career sacrifices that military spouses make, thus the need for the armed forces covenant, that awareness has obviously not reached some who choose to hate rather than support

BuildBuildings · 29/05/2019 18:54

If it wasn't the NHS I'd say do it. But recruitment cost quite a lot of money. If you pull out now they've probably got a 2nd choice. But in several months time they will have to do a whole other round of recruitment. Just because it's a huge employer doesn't mean it has loads of money. It's not like Unilever or something. Saying you're struggling to feel loyalty to a huge employer sounds a bit dumb and socially unaware when that employer is saving lives and keeping the country well.

BuildBuildings · 29/05/2019 18:57

Oh just saw you think you can do what you want because your DH is serving the country. Well that tells us everything we need to know.

Also given the dodgy ground of some military intervention in the past 15 years how valuable that is is very debatable.

Icandothisallday · 29/05/2019 18:59

Cant help thinknop is wanting an arguement and doesnt even begin to believe this is a bit shitty

OP what does your dh think of you putting yourself first.

I also dont understand what him serving his country has to do with you putting yourself first?

I come from a military family. I am not in the military. Dp used to be. It doesnt impact the decisions I make or wether I put myself first or not.

Icandothisallday · 29/05/2019 19:00

Saying you're struggling to feel loyalty to a huge employer sounds a bit dumb and socially unaware when that employer is saving lives and keeping the country well..

Everb weirderbthat she is will to uproot herself for her husbands large employer

lovesawindyday · 29/05/2019 19:00

do it, they won't mind as it is hard to fill nhs admins roles so will be happy some is there doing the work.

Laura221 · 29/05/2019 19:06

I wouldn't. They will have a 2nd person who may not be needing this job in 4 months and then they will have to mess around interviewing again. Also your not really going to throw your self into learning the role or integrating into the team.

Summersunshine2 · 29/05/2019 19:10

Hmmm I'm torn on this.
It isn't fair on the NHS or any company.
It isn't fair on you either but following your DH and supporting him in a very important job is something you have chosen to do and you must accept the impact it has on your life.
Maybe local companies should start including room to declare if you know you will be leaving soon so they don't waste their time.

PinkiOcelot · 29/05/2019 19:14

I think the OP is only interested in those posts telling her to go for it!

The NHS is slow to recruit. Often don’t advertise the role until the previous person had left. So the others are left picking up the pieces so to speak. So just drop your colleagues in it. Go for it!! Why not? It’s only a crappy nhs admin job! 🥺

IMessedUpToday · 29/05/2019 19:14

I don't work in anything as important as the NHS, in fact my job is decidedly trivial..however I do see people arriving and leaving after a few months and I can see the frustration and inconvenience it causes to the workplace and the staff who have to pick up the slack..so maybe something to think about, and I say that as a military spouse myself.

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