Aibu - passion

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Married with two small children. For the most part dh and I are happy. Good quality of life, health, no money worries etc. But there is no passion, from my side at least.

I miss that feeling, of someone new, exciting etc. Those of you who are together/married a long time, do you still have it or is it something that fades over time?

It makes me sad to think I will never be able to feel it in full force again!

Passion and novelty sometimes get confused! You’ll never truly get the novelty of meeting someone new / finding out that they like you etc in a long term relationship. If that excitement is specifically what you miss, it’s probably a lost cause.

But passion as a feature of long term love is certainly possible - I still desire my partner, still feel the deepest possible pull towards him and connection with him. That’s only getting stronger over time, not weaker.

Louise yes the connection is there. I suppose it is as you describe the novelty, the excitement the attraction of wanting to rip someone's clothes off!!

Been married for 33 years. It comes and goes, you have to make a conscious effort to fan the flames sometimes.