Ex no longer has a car. DC are with him yesterday- tomorrow this week and ds has a cricket match tonight and tomorrow night. Ex does coaching and has to be there too.
I told ds I would pick them up tonight as today's game isn't too far away and the game will finish late. This morning he texted asking me to pick them up from ex's at five, so presumably I will be expected to do both trips. I'll also have ds2 when the match is on and will have to give him tea.
Of course I don't begrudge my own DC but I'm getting sick of picking up ex' s slack. I routinely have ds2 when ex and ds1 go to sporting events as participants and spectators, it's never the other way, which ds2 is very aware of, and have this year given 2 lifts already. Cost is a factor- ex gives me no money for the DC and they are increasingly less keen to go there, including ds1 when it's not the cricket season! I don't want this petrol cost and want ex to sort the DC's meals beforehand. I don't want ex in my car. It makes me feel uncomfortable.
I work full-time in a stressful job and, much as I miss my DC when they're with ex, my time to recharge and catch up on stuff is quite precious and I don't really want to spend it running ex around.
Wibu to tell him, not via ds of course, that I'm not taking them tomorrow, or, if it means them not going, ex needs to give me some petrol money to cover both days and some cash for ds2,'s dinner? I feel so tight and obviously DC will never go without but I feel ex is taking the piss and I need to make a stand?