Sons ex moved on, should I tell him?

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My sons partner walked out on him and his child, he's currently still in contact with her, by phone only, she lives overseas, but has no idea she is seeing someone else. I know she is should I tell him or let him stay ignorant of the fact?

I don't see what you'd be hoping to achieve? Does he still think they're going to get back together?

How come you know?

Has he moved on from her emotionally?

@Frownette no I don't think so.

Is this a child they have had together, or a child he has from a former relationship prior to her?

Yes, that wasn’t clear. Is it ‘his’ child or ‘their’ child?

@HelloooCanYouHearMe it's a child they had together

Well in that case I think it's best he knows.

If the child wasn't hers then there'd be little point in hurting him further. But he's going to find out sooner or later if they have a child together. This man could be introduced to their child if it gets serious. If he found out you knew but didn't tell him he will feel hurt two-fold.

If you tell him now it will obviously hurt him, but it will be the start of him realising it's truly over and he can start coming to terms with that. The longer he's clinging onto hope of a potential reconciliation the longer its going to take him to move on.

I would tell him but only to make sure that his ex keeps him updated about new partner meeting his child.

Any other reason doesnt count IMO they are both adults and their love life is something private.

Isn’t child living with son, according to OP, the bit where she says his ex walked out on him and his child??

@HelloooCanYouHearMe "if he found out you knew but didn't tell him he will feel hurt two-fold"

That's my thinking too.

Child is with his Dad.