AIBU to feel sad?

[MoonlightDancer]

I've NC...Yesterday me and DH were bed shopping...walked into a very well known bed store and started to look around. We walked past a family of 4 who were talking to the sales assistant...the youngest child started whispering and then shouted very loudly "she's not English" both then started to giggle!

I was abit surprised and thought I had misheard so didn't really pay attention...they ran past our bed what we were trying out and very loudly shouted "not English, not English" giggling their heads off...Myself and DH just looked at the parents but they didn't say a word about what they were saying just told them to come over to where they were standing (which they didn't) and carried on jumping up and down on the beds which eventually another store assistant told them to stop doing!

AIBU to feel sad and quite angry (at the parents) that children of that age I would say they were around 5-7 years old should be taught tolerance and acceptance and certainly shouldn't be shouting "Not English"? For background info I'm black, born here so consider myself black British 'English', parents are from Ghana, been here over 50 years...DH is white been together a long time, we've experienced comments like this before and much worse but think this has got to me as they were so young!

YANBU I agree the parents shouldn't have tolerated them saying that. I'd be mortified if my child did that and would apologise and make it clear to my child it's not acceptable. My mum is German and we have had our fair share of prejudice comments, bullying etc (always worse around World Cup time, not surprisingly) and so I detest things like this.

YANBU, my two would never have said such a thing but, if they had, I would have had words and also made them apologise properly to you.

That's appalling. No wonder you feel sad. How very far we have come as a tolerant, multi-cultural, all inclusive society. Not.

YANBU. It would never have occurred to either of mine to say something like that. If for some reason they did I would be horrified and they would have been apologising to you ASAP.

YANBU that's shocking! At 5, my son has very little idea about who is/isn't English or whatever and certainly doesn't seem to notice/pay attention to anyone's skin colour.

So, my guess is that they are learning these attitudes from somewhere and since their parents seemed so unconcerned I would think they at learning it at home!

Young kids sometimes do say things that they shouldn't but it's up to parents to teach them that it's not ok!

Thanks for the replies it's really good to read people would pull their children up on such awful behaviour! Since Brexit me and DH have noticed a lot more hostility/more comments being said...for some (luckily not the majority) people it feels as though it's ok for them to say things/act a certain a way as though it's given them some sort of permission for them and their children to be rude/discriminatory...it's a real shame as yesterday and the last few months really does feel like a huge step has been taken back...I know it sounds silly and luckily it's only a few people who act like this...just woke up this morning feeling sad...DH was really annoyed too and walked away thinking what is going on when children say things like that? We live in a predominately white city but over the years more and more people's family's are blended with all different types of set up's and we thought things we're better...but then to hear that made us think it's really sad at their age their parents are teaching them that is acceptable in this day and age...again thanks for the replies.

B0bb1n that's really awful...DH and I walked away from a friendship as DH friend was disgusting at a remembrance Sunday service, spouting the most vile crap about Germans and the war it was embarrassing and so rude...when we tried to talk to him the next day he was exactly the same bleating on about his family's sacrifice...his attitude (which we had never seen before) was so ingrained we couldn't believe it...again it's just really sad that when you think how far things have come in this country and these types of attitudes are still around. I'm just glad from what we've experienced it's in the minority and not the majority.

I think I would have put them right.

You are English.

Bit like the Lenny Henry sketch.

“Go back to where you were born”

“You mean Dudley?”

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