To think this might indicate that he’s playing mind games ..

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I went no contact with my toxic ex four months ago. I miss him, love him but know that I deserve more, so I walked away. Since that time he’s;

Been asking a mutual friend about my life/ if they’ve seen me.

I think he’s called me from an unknown number and left a blank voicemail.

Told a friend of mutual friend that she’s just like me, reminds him of me (to the point that she asked mutual friend about me and asked to see a picture)

Aibu to think that this is all about him knowing it’ll get bank to me/ playing mind games.

He’s at the front of my thoughts again after I was doing so well

It doesn't matter what he's doing. If you're thinking about the how and why you're already letting yourself be drawn in. Ignore his antics, tell mutual friends you don't want to hear what he's up to and keep yourself busy. The thoughts will pass!

I know you’re right! I’m addicted to the drama I think

Regardless of his motive, he sounds like an utter cock

Stay strong write a list Of Why he’s an ex and Stick on Your Fridge and Keep adding To It when you Wobble- he knows what winds you up

I’ve had a few empty voicemails from unknown numbers recently, they’re usually call centres.

As for the rest: you’ve been doing brilliantly so far. Ignore, ignore, ignore. Living well is the best revenge

Thanks all, I really appreciate the words of wisdom! Although I know it’s all mind games, parting me wanted someone to say he obviously misses me! I’m pathetic!

Don’t rise to the bait responding about him missing you.

Wise words from @TwistedBiscuit
Ignore, ignore, ignore

Sorry if this sounds harsh but he's not missing you. He's missing controlling you. He clearly knows you've got Stronger and moving on with your life and he can't take it. It's all about him wanting to control you.

What made him toxic?

The situation was toxic and we didn’t make each other happy.

Ask your friends not to pass on any information in either direction. It will save you wasting time trying to analyse his silly games.