Would you be annoyed at this comment?

[Moofreemum1]

Bearing in mind I'm a bit more hormonal as it's that time of the month so prepared for people to tell me in being sensitive. Just went to pick some stuff up from my parents house, my mum knew I weren't in a great mood. Feeling depressed and tearful. I do have depression anyway separate from the PMS. As I went to walk in my dad said fuk off and laughed. I was taken aback as he doesn't normally say that When I just said oh that's not a very nice way to welcome someone. I grabbed my stuff said bye and as I was leaving I heard my dad say something but ignored him. My mum went did you hear him I said no and she went he said fck off and laughed. Now I guess if this was our normal way of chatting to each other then maybe i wouldn't be so taken aback.

Background info, love my dad as he's my dad and he has helped me with various practical things e.g. DIY. However I don't like his attitude sometimes and he's been abused to my mum over the years. My mum has been back too but not so much over the past 10 years or so. I don't agree with his views etc. Just thought some background would give more context. So Aibu to be upset but those "jokey" welcomes and goodbyes from my dad?

Of course not. What an awful thing to say to you. I wouldn’t go back there until he explains himself.

I don't suppose he is old enough to be developing dementia? People can behave very inappropriately.

I don't see how fuck off is any sort of a greeting at all, so I'm confused?

Think he was trying to be funny but it didn't go down to well.

No dementia, early 50s. Just spoke to my sister and she said he was in an odd mood with her too. Just ignored her pretty much. However if my son was there it would have been a different story.

Keep walking. You are upset. No matter what the intention your parents are the people you would MOST expect to apologise and give you a hug... yours haven't, for reasons best known to themselves.

Leave them to it and wait to see what they say. You don't have to put up with it.

Thanks I feel a bit better knowing I'm not being over sensitive. I've spoken to my mum today about why I was upset and feeling Down and I know she tells my dad everything so was a strange thing to say to me. Not hi how are you? Really felt like crying walking out or there

Strange comment from your dad.
Esspecially if he knows that you are struggling with depression, I’d expect him to greet you warmly and ask how you are. It can make a world of difference when you are feeling down.

Dont take it too personal OP and be kind to yourself

If he has form for being abusive to your mum, it may be related, sorry.

Oh dear he sounds like one of those men who likes to say something shitty then insists it’s a joke and expects you to be amused.
I would be giving him a very wide berth for a long time.

@missyb1 yea just like my abusive ex I had when every thing was a "joke" when in actual fact it was harsh and damaged my self esteem so badly. My dad does it to my mum bless her

Oh god. How awful. Don't know what to say really. But you are definitely not being unreasonable.

Thanks @mummyshark2019