How to fairly split holiday costs

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Hello,

I’m going on holiday with two friends. We are booking a two bed apartment. Two of us will be sharing a room and the other will have a room to themselves. The room costs a certain amount regardless of how many are sharing.

What is the best way of splitting the cost? Per room or per person?

My friend who will have the room to herself wants to split the room cost three ways but my other friend who will be sharing with me thinks it should be split in two with the person who gets the room to herself paying 50% of the total rate.

Who IBU?

My friend is insistent on having a room to herself.

Was she saying from the start, before you chose anywhere, that she insisted on having her own room - leaving it up to you two to decide if you were happy to share or, if not, that you would therefore require a 3-bed place?

Or was she in agreement with choosing and going ahead and booking this place, knowing that it only had 2 rooms, and then presumptuously saying "Well, I'M most definitely not sharing!" ?

I'd say that the answer to the above makes quite a difference.

She always wanted a room to herself. We could potentially have made a normal hotel room work for us with an extra bed.

We could potentially have made a normal hotel room work for us with an extra bed.

Tricky since you're all going to benefit from the extra space but it was her insisting you had it. Was it made clear at the time you were only going for the apartment over a shared hotel room because this friend wanted it. It would then be more reasonable for her to pick up more of the additional cost.

If had been that there just happens to be 2 rooms and one just happens to get her own then it should be split 3 ways. If she is insisting on having her own room then she should pay more. Maybe 40/30/30. Or alternatively if you have breakfast/drinks at the house she would contribute more to those.

I wouldn’t book accommodation that didn’t have a room each, to be honest. It will inevitably cause financial disagreements and most adults want their own space.

I'd be wary of going on holiday with anyone who is insisting on anything before you leave.

Holidays with friends involve compromise for them to be enjoyed.

40/30/30 sounds fair and means she isn't paying too much extra.

If you do decide that 50:25:25 is unfair, then I don't think you should go for 40:30:30- I think it's got the potential to cause a tiny bit of upset over such a small amount of money difference from 30 to 33, so if you do decide to go that way, then just go 33:33:33 and then there's no upset

Tight, come on then, OP. What did you and your other friend say when Cf friend insisted she got a room to herself and then decided you should pay thirds?

She sounds like the sort of person I wouldn’t want to holiday with! What’s she like normally? How long is this holiday and how are you splitting food? Travel?

Has your friend actually said to you " oh I demand a room to myself and I believe I should pay the same as you and friend C who are sharing" ??? CF!!

If she is insisting on a room to herself, then she should pay for that room, so it should be 50% cost for each room.

You say that you could have potentially shared 1 room the three of you, so if she is costing you more then she should pay for it.

This should have been resolved before you booked, not after!!

40/30/30 sounds fairest - unless she has an ensuite in which case it should be 50/25/25.

The whole point of sharing a room is to share costs. If she doesn't want to share a room, then there is nothing to split.... If each room has a cost, then the people in it, share the cost equally. If she is refusing a room mate, then she pays for her room.

If there is a 3 person room available and she is refusing it, then she needs to pay for her room herself.

It would be different if all they have is 2 person rooms and you don't want one person to be treated unfairly. Then you could draw straws as to who is on their own and split the cost 3 ways.