Looking for your thoughts on this. I’m a FTM living in a city with no family and only moved here 2 years ago so I have a limited support group. My new parents group is big, like 16 of us. We’ve been meeting since January this year (bub is almost 7 months). I’ve been trying to build friendship with these women. Text individuals for coffee, send private messages of support when I know they are having a hard time. I haven’t identified any of “my people” but I’ve been trying to develop a wide support network... anyway 2 weeks ago I was invited to a afternoon wine and cheese thing by one of the women I had asked to meet for coffee (she changed our coffee date to join in of the wine and cheese). It was with a group of 5 mums from mothers group who have clearly been hanging out a lot as a smaller sub group. I felt a bit out of place, but I felt they were nice and was grateful to be included. While I was there one of the girls added me to their group chat on WhatsApp. A week of lots of messages and chats about various Mum things go by, at least 20-40 a day. The following Friday we had a pizza lunch at another girls house. After I left the lunch the group chat had suddenly gone silent. 8 days without messages.
It dawned on me today they have made a new group chat and effectively kicked me out.
It’s so hurtful. I don’t think I said anything that offend anyone. I felt I was supportive of other mums and listened etc.
A couple of them I had really wanted to be friends with. I thought they were cool.
We had our big 16 strong meetup today (we have a weekly catch up). I was happy and enjoyed myself, but this evening it’s dawned on me what they’ve done and I feel pretty rubbish about it. I feel embarrassed and humiliated. Part of me wants to message and ask if I’d offended someone. But I don’t want to create drama. Has anyone else experienced this kind of obvious rejection? AIBU to be really upset about this?