To leave toddler chattering in her cot?

[SoCallMeMaybe]

If your toddler wakens through the night and you can hear them chattering and singing to themselves, do you go through to see them or do you leave them alone?

DD is 22 months and has taken to wakening around this time of night (who knows why). I went through to resettle her at first but it just seemed to make her excited (which is nice but...I’m tired). So i have just been keeping an ear out but dozing back off again.

Obviously if she was moaning or crying or calling for me I’d be straight through.

Is this ok?? She can be chattering away for ages!

I’d leave her to it, unless she becomes distressed. She’ll bore herself to sleep eventually.

Yes it's fine just leave her, she's happy, self soothing and will just fall back to sleep eventually.

Yes leave her. If she is happy no need to go in. Hopefully she will then go back to sleep

Course it's fine. She will be fine

It's fine, I'd leave her as long as she's happy. Hopefully she'll take herself off to sleep again, and that's great as it's something children need to learn to do & not all of them find it easy. Grab some sleep while you can!

FGS, leave her alone! She's self-soothing and happy. Going in there will only screw it up.

@Aquamarine1029 I think op was only asking for some advice your reply seems a bit hard aqua

@ilovewine4ever

What's "hard" about it? It's the truth. When you sabotage your baby's efforts to self-sooth, it's screwing it up. End of.

Obviously leave her alone. Is this even a question

Yes but if op knew that she wouldn't of posted surely?

Sometimes parents second guess themselves and want to make sure they're doing the right thing. No need for judgement on what you think may be a silly question. Sometimes they just need a little reassurance and don't need putting down because they asked a question.

OP, I am currently awake listening to my toddler of a similar age singing and chatting away. I've left her to hopefully fall back asleep by herself but will go in if she gets agitated

Yes, let them bore themself back to sleep. Good to learn early.

Don't make entertainment an option. Mine once (and only once!) thought it entirely reasonable at around that age to shout me through because they couldn't remember the words to the song they were singing in their head...

I've only went in when she sounds distressed. Usually lost her dummy. But I do stick my head in the door every night when I go to bed. DP said I should stop checking her but the very next night after he'd said that she'd been sick and didnt shout on us.

Yep, leave her to it and count yourself lucky, both a lovely chance to listen to your bub when they don't know you are and a chance for some extra zzzzzzz's :-)

Don’t forget to sneak a recording of her chattering, but don’t let her catch you! I wish I’d done this more when mine was little. They love listening back to it as a ‘big’ kid. It’s a special sound!

Mine does this! 20 months and we regularly have a monologue of weyyo weyyo weyyo car, weyyo car, boy, meow, Abba, papa etc. I love listening to her.

Yes leave her and it's wakes not wakens and waking not wakening

I used to have the saying until he cries, iveno lies.

If they’re not upset and perfectly happy being in their bed, there’s no point interfering, it does them good having a bit of independence and to self soothe.

Our 2.5 wakes throughout the night (it seems) and bashes and crashes around. When he’s especially awake he roars to himself! I do go in to reset because it’s bloody boring being woken up by this and nighttime is for sleeping not roaring His MO is to wake properly for the day before 5.45 and “chat” (consists mainly of saying “oh no!” plus nonsense and random words) for however long we leave him. I occasionally go in and remind him it’s still nighttime. I’ll be enforcing more strongly when he’s older: 5.45 is not morning and I don’t want him learning that it is.
So. I think OP is right to question whether or not she goes in. Gentle cooing and murmuring which doesn’t go on too long - yes definitely leave. Dinosaur party at 2am? Nah, I’d be shutting that down.

Set up a special camera to get the ghost on tape, sell it and make a few million

Yep I leave mine unless she cries as she’ll go back to sleep unless she gets upset.

Thank you all.

I was like 98% sure it was fine. It was a moment of weakness when I felt a bit sad that she was lying alone in the dark. I second guessed myself for a minute. That’s all.

@Grandtheftwalrus

What?! Why doesn’t your DP want you to check on your child?! I have a 2.5 yo and check on him a couple of times before I go up to bed in the evening when I pass for the toilet or whatever ... never thought that was OTT- just, you know, being a parent?

We got a camera installed because DS started chatting away in his sleep. We'd go in and check, see his was doing this and he'd wake up juuuuuust as we were out the door. So now it's check the camera, asleep leave him, sitting up having the craic with the toys in room, go in and get him to sleep again.

I leave my 9mo baby chattering away in my bed, have done this for a few months now. If she's not distressed I leave her to it. I need sleep, even if it's just a doze