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Work Crush

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honeycombcheesecake · 27/05/2019 17:50

Name changed for this as in conjunction my other threads is very outing Separated from Husband earlier this year, not divorced yet but will be at some point.

I have developed a massive crush on a work colleague, I guess he could be described as my work husband as we work closely together sit together in meeting any social event sit together etc.

He has always messaged me outside of work and I never thought anything of it now I'm obsessed with it every time he messages me I'm obsessed, I'm upset that he hasn't messaged me since Saturday afternoon. At work if he talks to a female colleague I get upset I need to get a grip.

A relationship could never work I'm going through a messy divorce, he is single and likes to tell me about all his friends shagging around even though they are in relationships so in reality even if he was interested I could never trust him, but at the same time I can't help obsessing over every detail we have recently started sharing an office so I can't even avoid him at work

I think I just need telling that I'm being unreasonable Wink

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HUZZAH212 · 27/05/2019 18:02

Don't be too hard on yourself OP. This man represents a close working friendship that currently offers you an interaction that I'm guessing stbxh doesn't anymore. You seem to already know it's not real/realistic and in all honesty dating someone from work rarely works out well (Yes there will be a few people it has). I'd try to find something to fill my time vs phone watching and be careful not to fixiate. Chances are he'd not be completely amazing if you did date - people always put their best face on for work! ☺

Answeringonlyyesorno · 27/05/2019 18:05

Yes, hes filling a gap in your personal life rather than 'the one'. Let it ride out. In 6 months time you'll look back and be amazed you saw him that way.

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