Hello, it was my birthday yesterday. A I lost my mum five years ago my birthdays are always just me and my family including step dad at our home enjoying the day etc.
We were actually doing a bit of DIY this weekend but 11 year old son was ill, trip to hospital, saw my birthday morning in A&E so felt a bit knackered, worried etc.
In the morning my husband said we had been invited to a local neighbour as it was his birthday party, they were having a bbq. We are only like neighbours saying hello when we pass, chat a bit outside if walk past etc.
I am aware that the man is a lech and his girlfriend my husband fancies.
I did not want to go as the children;17, 15 and 11 wanted us to stay together all be it in separate rooms! I hadn't myself been invited and tried to explain to husband that it was a casual invite text, probably more a 'we might make some noise' warning.
He said he will take a card around spend 30 mins top and then come back to finish the bit of DIY and help cook the roast.
3 hours later, he hadn't taken his phone I messaged the woman to ask if Myles was alright.
She texted back, want to join us we have all alcohol and shots etc. i politely said 'no thank you as i'm in the middle of cooking the roast' , which I was.
Then 40 mins later the neighbours turned up supporting Myles (his arm was around the woman) and they were all paralytic. Shouting happy birthday song to me.
I was shocked, stunned upset and pissed off. As were the children, but they thankfully saw the funny side as he promptly fell asleep on the sofa.!
I was very hurt, upset and still am I cannot shake the feeling.
AIBU?