To ask if anyone conceived at a difficult time of life and how did it affect your kids?

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We already have one amazing DC and are about to TTC DC2. For medical reasons we're best not hanging around.

There have been a lot of stressful life events lately including bereavement and work changes that have taken their toll. Things are now starting to look more positive again but we're still a bit low and stressed.

I have a friend who works in fertility and have learnt a lot about emerging research into epigenetics. I'm sure I'm reading way too much into it but for my reassurance has anyone conceived at a bad time emotionally as a couple and had happy well adjusted kids?

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Well I conceived the second 9 months after losing the first, so we were all over the place emotionally as a couple.

Son seems fine.

When dc3 was 10 days old our dc2 died suddenly. Several months later we decided to try for dc4, he was born 15 months after the death of his sister. Myself and my dh then seperated 3 weeks later. Both dc are well adjusted and happy.

Mine probably are affected because my bipolar was it’s worst around both pregnancies, for obvious reasons. But I can’t really do anything about it now. They seem fine except the older one is mildly on the ASD scale, but that’s probably more down to chance

When I was 6 months pregnant my baby nephew was found to be injured and removed from my siblings care into that of my parents.

over the following months there was masses of arguments, lies and cover ups which eventually resulted in me being NC with my sibling and parents.

My marriage struggled massively due to all that.

my OH also suffers serious health problems and I started a new job which entailed a very stressful/full on training course.

My Dd however is a total delight, sleeps, eats, content to play herself and so far barely any tantrums (she's 2.5)

I now have a second DD ( 1 month) and so far she is also very content.

Obv my DDs may end up a nightmare but so far the stressful start to parenthood hasnt affected them.

I wish you all the best with TTC xx

I conceived my ds just a couple of months after my dad died. When I look back actually I conceived both my children after losing lots of weight (dd I lost weight before my wedding and ds after the stress of losing my dad to an awful illness.) Sometimes I wonder if for me at least that might have had something to do with conceiving. I wasnt overly "thin" just my optimum weight both times, probably stress related both times!