People who are always late

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It drives me mad. Once or twice I can excuse but it's so disrespectful to always be late. Every time one of my DPs friends or family come round they are an hour or more late. We have a 4 month old DS and no one seems to care that this is bad manners. They have no kids... it drives me mad... what is their excuse?

With the introduction of instant communication, we have moved away from making extra effort NOT to be late (as you cannot communicate the lateness if you have arranged to meet at a certain time) to it being just part of meeting up.

It drives me up the wall.

We have also gone beyond the apology "I'm so sorry, but I am going to be late due to..." to just being matter of fact "I'm running late, seeya in 15 mins".

So it's just that people can't be arsed to make the extra effort to be punctual because it's just so easy to say "I'm late".

Drives me barmy.

Nope, UANBU

That's such a good point. Never even legitimate excuses grrrrr. People are obviously capable of getting to work on time otherwise they would be fired

It's SO rude! Late people seem to think it's a funny factor of their personality that everyone else should just get used to. Eg "it's not my fault that you thought I'd be on time, I'm always late'...

It's the height of bad manners. Unfortunately I'm married to one of these. Drives me mad.

I'm consistently 10 minute early. On the rare occasion I arrive somewhere "on time" I always feel a bit fraught... it's so much nicer arriving with some time to spare.

Agree re people saying they are just "late people" like they have no control 🙄

I’m v punctual so yes I don’t like avoidable lateness because of fuckery or poor planning
Folk who know it’s a 20min journey and leave 10 min travel time
People who think it’s endearing/cute/ditziness to be late.its not it’s shambolic.makes you look like a tit

I get there are unavoidable delays that happen,and it’s unfortunate

If I am travelling somewhere it’s a 20min journey I’ll allow 30min travel time. Slippage, just in case, time to get there get settled

I have friend who is always at minimum 30 mins late. I’ve taken to inviting her for 30-45 minutes before I actually want her and then she arrives at the right time!

It's rude. DH's whole family are perpetually late for everything and it drives me mad. It's such a disrespectful way to behave; their behaviour shows that their own whimsical lives are somehow more important that the plans they made with others and it's twatty.

I'm the opposite and turn up 15 minutes early for everything because lateness makes me flustered.

Yes. I have someone who’s habitually 30min late.we tell her the wrong time to accommodate her lateness
She was meant to come to theatre,arrived late.denied admission had to wait in the bar
Her lateness is a habitual inability to plan or prioritise tasks. She’ll only look for her travel card when she’s meant to be leaving. Hasn’t got a routine of leaving it in same location. SOmdespite having been in for hours she’ll only look for item when she’s meabt to be leaving. Won’t have checked of any delays on the route.

yanbu
I have family with faffing genes. drives me mad.
in my case the relative is a control freak and lateness is their ultimate weapon to exert control.

My husband’s brother missed his flight so went to visit his parents near the airport while waiting for the next flight. He missed that one too. He also missed our wedding.
There’s late, then there’s stupidity.

30 mins - 1 hour late consistently? I'd have left! I tend to arrive a few mins (never more than 5) either side of the agreed meeting time, which I think is fair enough. I try to be there early most of the time, so no, i don't get it either!

Yanbu

Though we have discussed this endlessly before. No magic bullet to end this sadly.

Habitual lateness is a learned behaviour,it can be unlearned if so inclined
I know someone always late & disorganised. When they have a meeting 20 minutes they dont leave until it’s 20minites til commencement of meeting
They haven’t printed any documents they require,and only print prior to,leaving. Not allowing time that document take to print,or spring the papers.
They Haven’t checked the route, or allowed for any potential delays

At start of week I’ll look at my appointments, print off nights and documentation in advance. Pop it in a folder ready for meeting. I don’t leave it til last min
I’ll check I know a route check for any delays or planned maintenance
work
If a journey takes 20min I’ll allow 30min

It's also the lack of consequences that drives this behaviour.

Regularly if I complain someone was late, they get all arsey and tell me that they TOLD me they were going to be late, so what's the problem?