To put DH PS4 on eBay?

[Nuckyscarnation]

The worst thing is I bought him the sodding thing as a Christmas present because he wanted one so much. More fool me.

He’s on it every bloody night. I go to bed at around 10pm because we have nine month twins and I’m usually knackered! He’ll have it switched on before I’m even at the top of the stairs and stays on it for hours!

Last night I asked him to not be in bed too late. He agreed and then came up at 2am!!! He’s off work this week but yet again I am up with the babies as he’s not even stirred. It’s quite an achievement given that we all co sleep.

Im seriously thinking about eBaying it and just selling it without him knowing. I’ve asked him repeatedly to spend less time on it and he takes no notice.

I am fed up

That would be extremely rude to just sell it out from under him.
How would you feel if he just got rid of something you enjoyed and had fun with? Not happy I'm guessing.
Talk to him and tell him if he's going to be playing it until all hours he still has to get up and do his share with the kidlets. I'd be shoving him awake and making him get up and go.
Don't sell the PS4 though, would be very rude.

It's not the PS4 that's the issue though is it? It's his lack of effort in your relationship and as a father.

Why does he think he has the right to behave that way? Why do you have to change your life to parent but he doesn't?

DP has a PS4, he very rarely plays it unless I'm working late and the bairns are in bed.

I couldn't be happy with a man who prioritised a computer game over being a parent. Is he selfish in other ways?

Mandala I don’t have anything I have fun with anymore. I’m looking after two babies 25/7, unlike my DH.

I’ve spoken to him. Nothing changes. I’m fucking sick of it.

Wake him up!! My DP likes to game and will stay up late doing so after I am in bed, but he still does his fair share of caring for DD and takes her before work each day if I need it (I'm breastfeeding and she only ever wakes for a quick feed in the night so there's nothing for him to do overnight, but if there was then he would be doing it!). He's an adult and should be able to manage his own time - if he wants to stay up till 2am then fine, but he has to do everything he should do despite that.

Fair enough you've spoken to him, but selling the PS4 is childish and not going to solve anything. Except inject (even more) resentment into your relationship.
He sounds lazy, and that's the main issue. I'm sure if you got rid of the PS4 he'd find other things to occupy his time and continue not to be helpful. Selling the PS4 is treating the symptom, not the disease.

Celebelly I’m breastfeeding too and mine are up endless times a night😪

They’ve been awake since 5.30am. There’s no way my DH would wake up that early for them. I asked him to take them for breakfast this morning but he doesn’t set his alarm until 7.30am. I’m wide awake by then!

There’s no way my DH would wake up that early for them

Why not? You have to.

It's not the machine that's the problem, it's not participating in family life. But I'm guessing you only gave one tv so he has to wait until you go upstairs to play? Btw they are handy to run things like iPlayer, now tv etc through. I use ours the most, I prefer it to tv (we have 2 tv's too)

Yeah, I wouldn't be giving him a choice about whether he wakes up or not! Shake him until he wakes up, hand him a baby and leave the room. When I want DP to take DD in the morning, I don't ask, I just hand her over and say 'There you go, I'm going for a sleep' and go back to bed, regardless of when his alarm is set for. I think the PS4 is masking other issues - was he very attentive and did his share before it came along?