NDN ongoing issues. Please help

[PurpleDahlia]

Hey, I've come to MN for advice as I'm at my wits end and I don't know what to do anymore.

I will summarise as quickly as I can. We moved to a new build HA, we are mid terrace in a block of three houses. Neighbours all moved in at the same time. One side is a lovely family with no issues.

The other side...mum with two teens age daughters aged 16 and 17. Was very apparent that mum is hardly ever there and girls left to their own devices. They play music till gone 11pm, smoke weed, drink, have friends over and have parties.

Long story short there were at least 10 incidents between Jan and March where we had to knock the door 10 times after 11pm and call the police to end parties.

It all came to a head when I managed to speak to the mum, explain what her daughters where doing. I got her mobile and she said I could call/text when the music was playing after 11pm. They had another party which was awful...loud music and weed smoking in the garden which made my house reek until well past 1am. The mum ignored my calls and texts and I had to call the police. I also reported to the HA and EH. She text the next day to apologise but also say she through I had a low tolerance for noise...🤬 and did not want to discuss any further incidents with her.

The HA got involved, we filled out log sheets and a neighbour hood officer visited us and them. For 2 months all was quiet.

Until this week...one party last week on Monday night which ended in some of the partiers vomiting in the street.

Tonight...music is blaring, my DH went downstairs and banged on the walls at 11:30 only to hear laughter and then have them bang back and carry on.

I don't know what to do anymore. I called SS last week to raise a safeguarding concern and my LA does have an EH department but no EH out of hours team to confiscate music. Their mum doesn't give a shit and let's them do whatever they want.

If you were in my position now, WWYD? I've had enough.

Police again and ring council asap on tuesday. Make sure you have a diary of the instances and ask them for recording equipment etc. Sounds like a total nightmare

Police, council, as often as necessary and record instances for proof. What a nightmare.

At 16 ss won't be interested unless they are vulnerable in some way, police should respond to drugs and music past 10pm. Log everything record on phone with time log. It's sounds like the mum doesn't accept its that loud, how unreasonable the noise is depends on frequency, once a month, once a week or multiple times a week? And how late it goes

Keep a record of all disturbances, and keep reporting them to the HA. Be the squeaky wheel because it’s the squeaky wheel that gets the oil.
Report them everytime they disturb you, wake you, keep you up or just cause a nuisance.
When mum gets her eviction notice, she may well become a better neighbour.

I would try to keep the HA onside and would relentlessly pursue it through them.

Thanks for your replies. I will continue to log and report everything.

Doesn't help that they are all in the back garden, music blaring smoking weed right now. I'm pregnant and tired from last night and trying so hard to not lose my temper and report through the proper channels to get a good result 👍🏻

I would keep logging all the parties and how it affects you, and reporting to the council what’s going on.

In a couple of years the girls could have partying-layabout partners also living there in addition to partying mates turning up at all hours - people who could have the potential to be really threatening. It’s best they are moved out sooner rather than later!

Go round at the crack of dawn every time they do it to speak to their mum or to complain directly to the girls. Keep ringing the doorbell till they wake up. Give them a taste of their own medicine when they're lying in bed hungover. But also, phone the police and the council ad nauseam. Just make a nuisance of yourself!

I think HAs tend to be a bit crap at dealing with anti-social behaviour, but I would go back to the HA and report each and every incident, with dates, times, approximate number of people present and what actually happened. Make it clear that you're reporting it as anti-social behaviour, not just noise nuisance, and make sure they know about the cannabis.

Do you know how your other neighbours feel about it? It can make quite a difference if several households complain.

Hopefully, they will at least let the mother know that by allowing this to continue, she is jeopardising her tenancy. That may give her the motivation she needs to sort her children out!

Do you have any reason to believe there is dealinggoing on atvthese parties? The police will be far more interested if there is so worth mentioning is you see anything that suggests this.

I'd keep reporting - is it affecting anyone else ? Get them to add their voice.