Ok please.don't flame me. This isn't a mental health bashing thread, I have recently had counselling and CBT myself but I'm worried.
I have NC
DD attends a small free school type school which due to its size has attracted a lot of kids who were not coping in mainstream due to SN/bullying/mental health including DD who has SN.
DD is considered vulnerable due to her SN.
DDs is part of a friendship group who all have
either SN/Autism/mental health needs including DD. We have had two issues in the past year involving children within this friendship group in which school safeguarding have become involved to protect the other children in the group. I'm talking suicidal thoughts, self harm and active encouragement of others to do the same plus some threats from a now ex pupil.
The group split slightly much to the relief of the senior staff involved.
DD still has a child who we will call Kate in her friendship group. Kate has always had some needs but recently has become much worse.
There is some mention from Kate about DID/Multiple personality disorder. I know nothing at all about this other than google and i feel massively for the child.
Kate however can not only be very very intense but also rather nasty at times. She is often quite cruel to the group of children and can be verbally aggressive but then blames her alter ego.
Dd is utterly confused. Due to her SN she hasn't got the capacity to understand the multiple personality and why someone who she has considered a friend for the last three years is suddenly turning on her and being quite cruel.
The latest thing is to scream at Dd if she gets the wrong 'name' or there have been some cruel comments.
Kate has also told dd that even Kates parents think Kate is dangerous.
DD has become quite distressed about this.
Dd only mixes with this group and
struggles greatly to make friends but im worried.
She has already experienced the constant talk of suicide and self harm and dark thoughts before I became aware and school stepped in and another incident which is intense for any adult to deal with daily never mind a child with SN and now she is walking on constant egg shells in this situation.
I'm desperately worried about the effect on her own mental health and would appreciate any advice on how you would deal with it.