to think I should let go?

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I'd like to know your opinions on this.
I have several friends, I don't see them a lot as I work full time and work late.
I have two friends I would consider to be my best friends one I haven't known long (friend A) a few years, and one I have (friend B).
Friend B doesn't bother any more. She didn't give me a Xmas or a birthday card. She makes excuses when we plan to meet up then it turns out she has been with other friends, so she lies a lot.
Friend A is like a decent person would be. She keeps in touch, she gives cards, asks how I am. She tells me the truth.
I get very offended that friend B is no rude these days. I finally feel like telling her to fuck off.
AIBU?

Could you let friend B drift, rather than have a confrontation? It rarely ends well, speaking from bitter experience.

Just let her go. You don't need to tell her to fuck off, just cast her adrift, because it seems to be what she wants.

Don't confront friend B just let her drift off. Hide her on SM so she doesn't even enter into your thoughts.

A wise friend once said something to me that resonates - friends come into your life for various reasons. Sometimes it's for a long time, sometimes it's for a short time, and sometimes the friendship fizzles out. You shouldn't be sad about it - you should look back with fondness and enjoy the good times, but appreciate it for what it was. Holding a grudge or being cross or upset won't help or heal anything :)

I mean, I'm not saying it might be a bit crap for you and you'd be well within your rights to wonder and be a bit miffed, but just don't dwell on it as I can pretty much guarantee it's not your fault (nor hers, really).

By the same token, I have friends that I've known for 20+ years and we now don't exchange cards or presents, and maybe text each other once every couple of months, and when we do text it's short and sweet - I'd still class them as some of my best friends. We just don't need to show it in that way.

If it's really upsetting you, and you want to keep the friendship, and you're as good friends as you say you are, then I'd say that there's nothing wrong with calling her out on it (in a 'bad something changed? I feel like we're not on the same page anymore' sort of way rather than a fuck you sort of way)

Friend B isn't a friend any more. Let go of it but there's really no need to throw a strop about it.

*has, not bad

Thanks. I wouldn't actually have told her to fuck off. That is simply how I feel. You are all correct to say let her drift off.
@LauraLooDerby I know what you mean, but those sort of long term friends don't lie to you and cancel arrangements then do things with other friends.
Think I wanted needed confirmation that I am totally unwanted in my struggling friendship with her. Deep down I know that, but sometimes it is hard to face facts especially when you have years of history and worry about what you have done to change that.

Onwards and upwards.

One thing I have learnt that is if a friendship has gone bad in some ways, or toxic, or they are just messing you about, it's best to take control of it in your head sooner rather than later, and let them go. I've let it fester before now, then got so mad it got deeply unpleasant, whereas if I'd dealt with it sooner there was no need for it.

@SpongeBobJudgeyPants I have a few newer friends who are local and kind. I will focus more on building better friendships with them.

A wise friend once said something to me that resonates - friends come into your life for various reasons. Sometimes it's for a long time, sometimes it's for a short time, and sometimes the friendship fizzles out.

Not quite the well-known saying!

Ooh is it a well-known saying?! I have no idea!