Me and hubby are looking to move abroad next year and intend to live there 10/15 years. My hubby is taking early retirement at 55 so we can finance this move and we are buying a house there and renting ours out here to cover mortgage and outgoings here. The move now has been prompted by a couple of my hubbys friends have died recently very suddenly and both had a couple of years left before retiring and both had bought properties abroad to retire to but sadly not to be. Neither of us have health issues so we think if we go soon we stand a better chance of fulfilling our dream while still in good health. Both of my hubbys patents have passed away but my mum is still alive. We are not close and I live an hour's drive away but my sister and her are very close and my sister is her carer by choice and gets paid to provide this care. I haven't discussed my situation with my mum as I know she would not be happy about it and it would create problems. She is in her early 80s and is having a hip operation although hasn't told me when and although I have offered in the past to help her I have been declined my offers of help as sister is in control of the situation. My mum has also told me in the past that I have been dis inherited which is fine and I have told her, hubby and my daughter I am okay with this as it's her choice. I now feel reluctant to offer any assistance as I would be concerned people would think I was trying to get her to change her will and I have not seen her for 2 years now. My contact is very limited and I feel we are both happy with this. My question is do you think I am being unreasonable to go abroad under these circumstances....I would obviously give my address to family and could get back should the need arise.