terrible day - am i depressed or just dealing with normal sibling rivalry?

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Who the f would have children? Am I expecting too much of myself or am I normal. I actually hate spending a day with them both right now. I get no pleasure or satisfaction out of it. None at all. It is sheer hard work. I spend the entire day cajoling, persuading, shouting, explaining and It?s effing exhausting. Wouldn?t anyone find this? And yet I don?t see it in others. Why anyone wouldn?t want to go back to work is beyond me. Why would anyone actually want to spend their days with people so utterly demanding, selfish, irritating and downright grotty?

Do you feel better for that thumbsucker?!
I think we all feel like that sometimes. If people tried to tell us that having children could be nightmarish before we had them, we wouldn't have believed them would we?

What is your main issue? (alone with no DS and no DCs tonight, should be bliss, but actually enjoying talking about other people's family problems. How perverse is that?!)

How old are your children? Mine are 3.8 and 22 months and have annoyed me a lot today. DS has been whiny and whingy and DD has been taking ebverything out of every cupboard and piling it up everywhere.

Found myself shouting at both of them which I hate doing but just got so frustarted. I work 3 days a week (not Friday ) and definitely feel there is no way I could be a SAHM.

I think you are normal, at least I am pretty much the same and I think I am normal too.

Thank you for listening. It's just been one of those days. DS is 2 and 9 months, DD is 9 months. I think (now that they're in bed and I've had a calming glass of wine) that DS has a serious touch of the green eyed monster now that his sister no longer just sits about but can actually get about. that, and the fact that they're both waking up at about 5.30am!

poor you! I completely understand. Mine are a bit older and I normally work 4d a week but am taking parental leave for 2 months to look after them. I'm SHATTERED!!! and wondering just how SAHM manage without going completely barmy.
Yours are at a tricky age, and I definately remember the green eyed monster bting once DD2 was mobile and able to grab things off her big sis. Still suffering from it a year later too.
Enjoy the wine and feet up - am off to do likewise

thumbsucker i'm so glad i came across your thread i feel exactly like this too today DS2 is 2.5yrs and DS3 is 14mths and they are unbareable at the moment both so jealous of each other DS3 is teething and very VERY clingy at the moment DS2 has a touch of the green eyed monster and won't let me cuddle DS3 without pushing/biting/hiting and now DS1 and DD have broken up from school - GLASS i need a BOTTLE

sparklesandwine I am so glad I'm not alone. DD is also teething and clingy. I feel terribly guilty about cuddling her and giving her attention as ds gets so jealous. tries to push in and get a cuddle too. I really want to enjoy her growing up in the same way as I did with him. Am feeling very upset. Please, someone tell me it gets easier.

tumbsucker it does get easier it really does - but having 2 so close is very hard tbh i never though it would be as hard as it is

I have a gap of 3.5yrs between DS1 and DD which is great, a gap of 2.8yrs between DD and DS2 which was also good, but the 16mth gap between DS2 and DS3 has been so hard i can't explain it although very good too and i can see the plus side for when they are older (hopefully!)

I feel the same as you at the moment i love my children dearly but i NEED a break from them for my sanity and not just a break for a couple of hours i need a couple of days

DS1 and DD have gone away with DP's sister until monday which they will love but i'm still left with the hardest 2 to be brutely honest i wish she had taken the youngest 2 so i could have spent some time with the older ones as i hardly see them because of school - god i sound ungrateful and selfish don't I, sorry!

ooh this fills me with dread. mine are 2 years apart, ds is 2 and a bit, dd 8 weeks. ds has mostly been great but it's frustrating when he has all my attention, we're reading a book or something, and he just decides to get up and slap his sister for no reason at all. so i guess it can only get worse?!

Feel for y9ou Thumbsucker, I felt guilty going to work today leaving my wife with our 2 and 4 yr old. She looked shattered before the day started. I knew the weather would be crap and all she had to look forward to was the two kids together in the house. I wish I could win the lottery somedays.

gulp - I'm 32 weeks and ds will be 2.4 when baby is due.

berolina, when it is bad it is bad but when it is good it is brilliant! And it does get better as they get older.

it's hard isn't it? there are so many books on routine etc for number one but when number 2 arrives there seems to be no easy way. mostly ds is a sweetie, so i can't really complain, but there's so much drudgery involved, the house is a tip all the time and i feel constantly guilty for leaving dd crying or for getting cross with ds when he lashes out for no good reason or for failing to entertain him etc etc

sorry berolina - a lot of the time it's lovely! just wish we had a cleaner and an extra pair of hands at bedtime

belorina you should be fine with that age gap because your DS will be able to understand a little more plus by the time your baby can move (which is when the problems sorry fun starts your DS will be around 3 and alot more understanding and self sufficiant - it will be hard but for a few weeks but you'll be fine

It seems none of us is alone. I agree with big git dad. the lovely times are really lovely, and DS does appear to love his sister (he's even said so - without prompting - on one occasion, which is obviously one of those times to cherish). it just seems that the hard times are really very stressful, and keeping calm and being reasonable yourself is no mean feat.

Anyway, I'm back to work tomorrow for a bit of a break! ha ha.