AIBU to think that HCPs are allergic to the word pain??

[OwlBeThere]

This is only semi-serious, but actually sometimes it’s really unhelpful and makes a situation worse.
Every time I see any kind of health care professional they will use words like ‘sore’ and ‘discomfort’ when what they mean is ‘painful’ and ‘it fucking hurts’.
I heard it when I had a hysterectomy, when I’ve had biopsies, when I had my wisdom teeth out, when I broke my femur(?!?). None of those things were uncomfortable they hurt like fuck and not acknowledging that either makes you think it’s not going to be so bad (ie lumbar puncture) or makes you feel like you’re causing a fuss about nothing (definitely bloody not with a snapped thigh bone or a raging infection in my hysterectomy scar).
So why does it happen? Do they imagine it helps people? Because it doesn’t.

I was screaming on my hands & knees in labour when the midwife tried to give me 2 paracetamol, with "this will help you dear" I threw the bloody tablets across the room & told her to get me some proper fucking drugs. I then got told the anaesthetist wouldn't be long to give me an epidural, she went looking for him to hurry him up.

@IceBearRocks I kept telling them to buy me a drink first
4 times in total as I was in and out of a&e with pain/new symptoms. Cauda equina definitely not fun but at no point was I writhing/non verbal with pain

I don't know how to respond to pain. I have to work out when I should react so the HCPs can see it.

My DDs are the same. DD1 (6) was sent home 3 times with appendicitis, once after her appendix had perforated on the ward (it was concluded later) because she didn't respond appropriately to the pain.

When I returned her to A&E with the perforated appendix, I had to argue with the doctor who wanted to turn us round and send us straight home as she must 'just' have a UTI. It was only the result of the urine test (that I insisted on) that got her admitted and her temperature taken. It was through the roof. 50ml abscess removed later that day.

All because she didn't look like she was in pain.