To mention to DH that he's getting a little bit bigger than he's always been?

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How do I go about this. He's never commented on my weight that goes up and down by 2-3 stone every 10 years or so. He's never said a word to me

Do I say anything or just hope he notices like I notice on myself eventually and cuts back on the snacking ?

We eat fairly healthily as I'm going through one of my slimmer phases (I always say never again but it always creeps on - this time was 2 stone over 4 years and it's now gone again)

I can't cook any healthier than we already eat. He must be having unhealthy lunches at work because it isn't at home

I don't want to upset him at all. But I've noticed a clarkson-esque stomach starting to appear.....albeit smaller but it's on the way...... he's slim apart from the stomach area.

As I said he's never ever said anything to me but I suppose I wish he had done in the past as I don't seem to notice myself getting bigger until it's too late.....

Shall I just leave it - actually writing it down makes me think I probably should.....?

I’d leave it. Do you think he’s unaware? He probably knows. If he’s accepting of your fluctuating weight you should be of his. It doesn’t sound like he’s obese or anything.

Yes that's what I'm thinking now I've typed it. Shall just ensure I carry on with the healthy meals at home and hope it's a phase. Worry about him that's all

I’d look to reduce portion sizes and generally up activity level - family walks, swim etc. Ask him if he fancies going for a run.

Or drop into convo that you’re looking to keep the weight you’ve lost off, and has he got ideas to help with that. It might trigger a conversation generally with him around weight that’s done sensitively.

He'll know because his clothes will feel tighter, whether he wants to do anything is up to him. You're already eating healthily as a family, make sure your free time is active, other than that leave him to it. If you were a man in here saying I've noticed my wife has gained a little bit of weight round the middle should I tell her what to do to lose it, you'd get shot down in flames.

Yes that's why I thought I should kept quiet. But if only he had said something to me a couple of years ago then maybe I wouldn't have gone overweight again. But would I have taken it? Probably not and would have been cross

Shall keep quiet. He's not had to buy new clothes yet so hopefully he's just having a phase!

I think you should leave it. He has to be in the right mindset to want to lose weight and if you say something to him and he isn't it's only going to upset him. He was respectful enough not to say anything so I think you should do the same.

I put on about a stone and a half and DH said nothing. I noticed DH was getting a bit of a beer belly but said nothing. We both found our motivation and have lost it now but it only happens when you find the right frame of mind.

Why are you worried about him? If he's slim apart from the stomach area it's hardly like he's getting dangerously large

Its normal I think for everyone to have fluctuations in weight, leave him alone. He may notice, he might not for a while, but you can't really not notice gaining any kind of significant weight in the long run because your clothes stop fitting? If his clothes still fit it can't be that much.

Don't blame him for you going overweight, you must have known you were gaining weight and I doubt him saying something 5o you would be well appreciated.

Tricky. DH was bigger when I met him and then slimmed down for our wedding. He was never skinny but was thinner than he was when we first met. I slimmed down too but since we've been married, 5 years, the weight has creeped back on and since having DS I'm still a stone heavier than I'd like to be after losing weight with SW. DH is probably heavier now than when we met. I've mentioned it, saying we should both slim down a bit, and he always agrees but then does nothing about it.

I don't want to hurt his feelings but I do worry about his health.