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Aibu to feel rattled

21 replies

CSIblonde · 25/05/2019 15:57

I was letting the cat out via the window (flat, no cat flap) & was wearing a baggy t-shirt & knickers, as it's lovely hot day. Low window so you might be able to see I was only in that. Anyway, as I was shutting window a guy walked past, did a double take & stopped, staring. I put blinds back down & thought nothing of it. 5mins later the front doorbell went. I didn't answer, thinking it was prob for next door . Then a knock on my window, so I found my shorts & answered door. It was same guy. He said 'is this Carol's house'? I said no & hurriedly shut door. I'm worried now as the 2 other flats keep leaving the main door on the latch despite discussions re safety . I do have a fake CC TV camera by my window but still feel rattled. I've seen him since, walking up the other side of the road, so bit worried i'll come across him again. He's built like a tank & well over 6feet so hard to miss: & he obv wasn't bothered by the CC TV stuff. What was he thinking knocking on a strange woman's door?

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BigRedLondonBus · 25/05/2019 18:45

I think you are over reacting and either wear clothes or keep blinds/curtains shut if you don’t want People looking in.

SoupDragon · 25/05/2019 19:25

so bit worried i'll come across him again.

Why?

janetforpresident · 25/05/2019 19:30

He may have done the double take because he was checking to see if you were Carol.

Try not to worry you are locked in.

If you see him again another day then you may have a point but at the moment he could well be just some guy visiting his friend Carol.

hazell42 · 25/05/2019 19:35

He was hoping to get another look at you In your underwear. He does not know anyone called Carol.
He went away again so while creepy he doesn't seem to be dangerous. I wouldn't worry.

SummerWhisper · 25/05/2019 19:44

I would remain wary. If he had the audacity to stare at you when you weren't fully dressed, then knock on your door with what seems like a fake reason, I would be worried. You have also seen him walking up the other side of the road since he knocked at your door...be careful.

Eliza9919 · 25/05/2019 21:15

I'd actually take this very seriously.

For the fact he came back and knocked on your door, I'd ring 101 or whatever it is. They might put a fast response flag on your property or something if you have to call 999.

I'd also keep a very wary eye out for a while too. And maybe get real CCTV.

BigRedLondonBus · 25/05/2019 21:51

101 for someone KNOCKING on the ops door 😂 does MN suggest calling 101 for everything?

Eliza9919 · 25/05/2019 22:02

I never do, but for this I would. He stopped and stared. He came back and knocked on her door and then persisted to knock on the window when no response, with a bs reason. He's walked up and down her road past her house since.

I'd take that seriously.

AndTheEnd · 25/05/2019 22:06

They might put a fast response flag on your property or something if you have to call 999.

They won't. That is reserved for people in actual danger, not people who had someone ring their doorbell.

WorraLiberty · 25/05/2019 22:07

For the fact he came back and knocked on your door, I'd ring 101 or whatever it is. They might put a fast response flag on your property or something if you have to call 999.

Do you seriously think Police do that sort of thing for something like this? Confused

Or do you think they might be busy putting fast response flags on the homes of people who have actually had proper threats or violent/hideous crimes actually committed against them?

Samind · 25/05/2019 22:09

If you're really unsettled by it OP and it is very strange behaviour btw, can you stay with someone tonight?

PointlessUsername · 25/05/2019 22:10

Just keep a look out for him.

I would be freaked out too.

I had similar happen to me and it wasn't even what he did it was how he made me feel.

WorraLiberty · 25/05/2019 22:11

He stopped and stared. He came back and knocked on her door and then persisted to knock on the window when no response, with a bs reason. He's walked up and down her road past her house since.

He may have stared because he thought she was Carol or Carol's flatmate.

He knocked on the window because the OP didn't answer the door.

Well yes, he walked up and down her road because he's looking for Carol's house Confused

Do you not think this ^^ is how the police would view the situation?

icelollycraving · 25/05/2019 22:13

Lock your window and door tonight. Get a ring doorbell if possible so you can see if he attempts anything again.

AndTheEnd · 25/05/2019 22:14

I've seen men display their prowess in lit windows. No idea why.

comedycentral · 25/05/2019 22:15

Do you get on with your neighbors. Maybe have a chat with them about security.

AndTheEnd · 25/05/2019 22:16

OP were you unaware that people could see in your window?

BigRedLondonBus · 25/05/2019 22:30

FWIW my sister had a strange man turn up one day asking her neighbour who her car belonged to, she was out at another neighbours when he approached her neighbour demaning to know whose car it. The neighbour told he she didn’t know. That night the man came back at 2am and was looking into the car and looking though house windows as a neighbours a son spotted him. The following morning the neighbour witnessed the man hiding around the corner of my sisters estate. She phoned my sister to warn her. He waited there for several hours obviously hoping to find out who the car belonged to. My sister was really freaked out by it as she had no idea who the man was and the neighbour described him as “very angry.” She phoned 101 and they told her there was absolutely nothing they would do. So you seriously think 101 would do anything over someone knocking on the ops door.

SoupDragon · 26/05/2019 09:35

He's walked up and down her road past her house since.

Well, he walked down it once when he knocked and then once on the other side of the road, presumably as he went home. It's not unusual to walk both ways along a road in the course of a journey.

The innocent version of this is that the OP looks like "Carol" and he thought she lived there.

megrichardson · 26/05/2019 09:40

I'm another one who doesn't like the sound of this. I think he was trying his luck to see if the OP was deliberately showcasing herself for a sexual encounter. I don't believe that he thought a Carol lived there, but he thought he might be on a promise.

I don't like the fact that he walked past again, either. He has probably got the message now but I would be a bit careful for a while if I were you OP, and make sure you're fully dressed if you go near your windows.

SoupDragon · 26/05/2019 09:57

I don't like the fact that he walked past again, either.

How else do you imagine he was going to make his return journey?

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