A few days ago my partner had a message from his brothers girlfriend asking if they could come over at some point so she could meet our newest arrival.
However I'm not happy to have her anywhere near me, my house or children.
A year ago, she and the brother ended their relationship over something stupid (she was incredibly needy and constantly calling him and his family is she couldn't get through to him) she then started causing issues for the brother and being really dickish to him. Her family got involved as did the sister of partner and brother, just sticking up for him and telling them all to leave him alone. Anyway, she then messaged my partner asking if he was going to start getting involved, to which he said 'no, it's none of his business and they should sort it themselves'. She kept on messaging and slagged the brother off, so partner told her to stop being childish, talk to the brother about this and to stop messaging him. So she started having a go, insulting partner and said she was going to call social services and have our son removed from us, reason being, my partner smokes, at the end of the garden, never near son, has a smoking jacket, washes his hands, brushes his teeth every time he has a cigarette. He told her she was being ridiculous and muted her. They got back together about a month later.
Anyway, I can't forgive the fact that she threatened to call SS, at the time we were an open case with them due to having really bad PND/psychosis, I was terrified that if she actually called, then I was going to lose my son. So I don't want her in mine or my children's lives but I also feel like I'm just over reacting about the whole thing.