To tell a friend it’s not ok to trap someone?

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My friend recently came back from holiday while there she saw a woman that tells you your future basically she told my friend she would never marry and be childless.. my friend is single and nearly 30 so since coming back she’s come off the pill and started going out more I really don’t like tell people how to live there life but I feel she’s making a massive mistake and wrong if she’s trying to get pregnant by the first guy she claps eyes on.. this is so out of character for her how can I tell her without sound like her mother

You don't you speak to her about her mood not judge her risky behaviour be a real friend this sort of change in behaviour is a massive red flag for mental health issues

You ask her to cop on to reality, not on holiday anymore get a grip!

She's on glue - for believing a fortune teller and for trying to trap someone.

Sure trapping someone is shit but if she's having ONSs with men who don't use condoms they are responsible for their own choices. I'd be more concerned that she's trying to deliberately create an entire human without apparently giving any thought to how that human will feel about their origins and father/lack thereof. Not to mention rushing into potential single parenthood without preparation and support.

Her choice, but I’d voice my opinion about it. K

Is she trying to get pregnant? Do you know that she isn’t using condoms? I would be careful of making any judgements before you know exactly what is going on

Does she actually want to trap someone or is she desperate for a baby and going it alone? Because that last one is not so bad, if a man doesn't want the chance to have children without his knowledge he shouldn't sleep around without condoms. The first one I find more concerning. Trying to get a relationship this way could set her up for all kinds of abuse.

Where did she go on holiday?

Are you sure she’s trying to trap someone? Or does she believe the fortune teller and thinks she won’t get pregnant?

Tell her to go for fertility check up and dating websites

If she's having ONS without condoms then I'd be more concerned about the potential STIs she's exposing herself to.

She is not responsible for protecting men from fatherhood. They are. She is likely to contract an STD.

If she wants to be a mother she needs to think about the consequences to the baby being born when only one parent wants them and they then don't know their father. Don't be selfish.

Tell her she might get the baby she wants, but with her behaviour it might be born with herpes or HIV

This doesn't make sense. Either she believes the fortune teller in which case trying to trap someone is futile as she will remain childless. Or she sees it for the BS that it is and therefore also no need to trap someone and let her life unfold as it would have done anyway... perhaps you could point this out to her?!

Tell her to buy sperm off the internet they are inexpensive checked and quite frankly better for you than a random

Why don't you tell her to go to a legit sperm donor place. My friend wanted children but didn't want a relationship with a man (or anyone), she had her baby by sperm donor from a clinic not a one night stand, normal pregnancy and delivery etc.

She sounds like she’s had a mental breakdown.

I agree with boggles. I'd be seriously concerned about her mental health