Bringing sick older kids

[Strugglingonagain]

I was at a class with my baby and older child (inset day) this morning. A mum came in with her younger child and 2 older ones who she told to sit at the back with a book. I found out during the class they'd both been sick during the night. AIBU to think she should have just missed the class instead of bringing 2 potentially contagious children to a group with lots of other babies and younger children? I wish I'd said to her she shouldn't have come but I was too scared. If I'd known before wed have left (emetophobe) but also eldest was so excited to be going and I'd paid for both! Now I'm really anxious about both of mine and me getting it, especially as her sick kids kept joining in (plus the youngest could be coming down with it and was obviously around all the others)

If they were sitting at the back, and not touching or playing with other kids, how can they make you or your kids or other kids sick?

Your children are going to be exposed to sick children all the time. You need to learn to chill. What's the point of getting anxious about something that may not even happen?

(emetophobe)

Do you have a clinical diagnosis?

Babies and toddlers are always passing germs around at these baby groups. If you think like that, you would never leave the house.

Yes it was incredibly selfish to take 2 recovering children to a playgroup. We all know that a child can randomly vomit the day after a stomach bug, that would have meant a room full of potentially infected babies and parents. Yes babies and children do catch bugs and germs but surely it makes some sense to prevent your kids getting poorly. Coughs and colds are fine, stomach bugs are an entirely different thing altogether which is why there is the 48 hour rule.
Nobody wants to be looking after a vomiting baby/toddler who has every chance of becoming dehydrated and ending up on fluids in hospital and in some cases left with lactose intolerance for a couple of months.

I’ve read threads on here about stomach bugs and people due to go on holiday or somebody in someone’s office was throwing up all night but being a martyr dragged themselves into the office. The usual consensus is that they should stay at home until the 48 hour contagious period has passed.
Can’t understand the above replies to be honest.
YANBU!

YANBU- this behaviour is selfish and infuriating. Some people are so bloody thoughtless.

Yes I have a clinical diagnosis and have had treatment.

The children did keep coming over and joining in for those saying they were sat at the back. I said that in my original post I believe.

Honestly didnt think I was being unreasonable.. I completely agree with not staying in with coughs and colds etc but not d&v..

Someone did this at our playgroup when mine were younger. My poor cousin was in bits and had to leave because her immunocompromised (awaiting a kidney transplant) was in contact. I know he can go anywhere and be in contact and Ano you could say why did she take him but god the lad missed out of enough without being able to go to playgroups! So imo very selfish of her, she doesn’t know if anyone there is immunocompromised

This woman is selfish. On top of this I’d go as far as to call her a crap mum. Why drag two ill children out? Not only is she exposing the immune compromised (which babies are) and possibly pregnant women, her children could have begun to feel worse! Really needing to be looked after at home.

Actually I think op has a point. Yes with the best will in the world you'll always be exposed to bugs but I think it's very selfish to deliberately bring sick kids to a class. Bugs wouldn't spread as much if people were more considerate.

Depends on the child IMO, my daughter can often be sick in the night for no apparent reason sometimes food just doesn't agree with her and comes up in her sleep 🤦🏻‍♀️ never spreads to anyone else and she is only sick once, so I would take her to play group if she had no others symptoms!! But Obvs this was different as they had already spread the sickness between them 🤷🏻‍♀️ some people are selfish xx

Silly cow! All it would take would be a bit of vomit splatter and those teeny droplets would be flying! Very, very, selfish.
Please ignore the blasé posters. They'll be the buggers who send their kids into school the next morning, hissing at them 'don't tell anyone you've been sick/had the runs'!

YANBU. Of course your kids will be exposed to bugs and could get sick anywhere. But it's a totally different thing to knowingly bring sick kids out where they could expose others. And it wasn't like this was going to the grocery store or dr. This was going to a playgroup. She should have stayed home. And even if OP's kids don't get sick, I would still be pissed off about it. It's incredibly selfish behavior.

YANBU they wouldn't be allowed in school and for good reason!

Assuming that the older ones are nursery/school age children... so they were not able to go to school due to being ill but she thought it was ok to bring them to the baby group? Same policies should apply. If a child vomited or had diarrhoea, shouldn't return to playgroups or schools until 48hrs from the last episode.

Fucking selfish. That's all there is to it. Stay the fuck at home with sick bugs.

But people don't. Because they're selfish.