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Original poster

Is this mean or am I in the right?

72 replies

lastqueenofscotland · 24/05/2019 07:31

I am not really a dog person, I don’t like the mess or the smell and I’m mildly allergic to most things with fur.
My friends is off on a very lavish holiday and said she could only afford about half a week of the dog being with a sitter Confused
She asked if I would have the dog for 3 nights this week, and then her new boyfriend would have her for the rest of the week until she goes back.
I agreed on the understanding that friend knew I don’t really like “pets” so while the dog would be walked, fed, watered and played with i was not down for things like having it sleep on my bed (which she requested Confused) or letting it on my sofa.

She texted last night that her boyfriend is actually away too so she’ll just pick her up off me Friday next week.

Aibu to absolutely fucking not?! She sorts someone else to collect her as per our agreement?!

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SunshineCake · 24/05/2019 08:03

Her boyfriend was never having the dog. I'd keep the dog if you can cope okay without becoming ill but it would be the end of the friendship for me.

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lastqueenofscotland · 24/05/2019 08:03

I’m working all bank holiday. I texted her saying ok but I’m back at work tomorrow, so the dog will be shut in the kitchen for 12+ hours a day which is why I only agreed to 3 nights.

Someone miraculously can come and get her tomorrow morning now Hmm

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60secondfacetimer · 24/05/2019 08:04

Definitely time to back away from this friendships

memaymamo · 24/05/2019 08:04

Well done. Glad she sorted out a replacement.

Purplecatshopaholic · 24/05/2019 08:05

There are pet sitters who have dogs in their own home so they dont have to go to kennels. Your friend should have sourced this before she went - and factored the cost in.I have a dog and no way would I ask a friend who doesnt even like dogs to look after him!

AnyFucker · 24/05/2019 08:08

She can afford a lavish holiday but not care for her dog ?

Hmmm

YesimstillwatchingNetflix · 24/05/2019 08:08

Wow your friend really sucks.

Taswama · 24/05/2019 08:08

I would definitely threaten to take it to rspca even if you have no intention of doing so. As pp say, the cost of someone to look after your pets is part of the cost of a holiday.

MoveOnTheCards · 24/05/2019 08:09

Christ what a cheek.

Of course now she’s messaged you about keeping the dog for another week in her head it’s probably ‘sorted’ so i’d expect not to hear from her again today.

Taswama · 24/05/2019 08:09

Sorry missed your update.

MoveOnTheCards · 24/05/2019 08:09

X-post. I stand corrected!

Well done OP! Enjoy your dog-free weekend! Smile

Winegumaddict · 24/05/2019 08:17

What a horrible thing to do to you and the dog. I have a dog and before we book a holiday we budget for the dog too. I'm glad it's sorted but now you know what a CF your friend is.

LL83 · 24/05/2019 08:25

Awful friend. You were being really generous taking the dog for 3 nights and she has taken advantage I would be livid.

GreyhoundzRool · 24/05/2019 08:28

Glad she’s arranged for someone to come and collect

I agree with the others - she always planned for you to have the dog the whole holiday. Despicable behaviour on her part

Butterymuffin · 24/05/2019 08:30

You know never to agree to a favour for this person again. Cheapskate just didn't want to pay.

mbosnz · 24/05/2019 08:30

Well, I'm guessing you'll never be saying 'yes' to that friend again for dog-sitting, will you? Short sighted of her.

fedup21 · 24/05/2019 08:31

What a shit friend.

magoria · 24/05/2019 08:36

You know I think the new boyfriend was never having the dog and this was her intention all the time.

JudgeRindersMinder · 24/05/2019 08:37

There was never any intention of her bf taking the dog for the rest of the time! At least you know you’ll never need to have the dog again!

JeezOhGeeWhizz · 24/05/2019 08:41

CF alert.

CoraPirbright · 24/05/2019 08:41

AnyFucker:
She can afford a lavish holiday but not care for her dog ?

Quite. Perhaps she should not spend quite so much and take care of her own responsibilities. Angry. At least you now know that she will take the piss if you do a favour in the future (which I suggest you never do!)

LimeKiwi · 24/05/2019 08:44

I’m working all bank holiday. I texted her saying ok but I’m back at work tomorrow, so the dog will be shut in the kitchen for 12+ hours a day which is why I only agreed to 3 nights. Someone miraculously can come and get her tomorrow morning now

Cheeky cow that she is. Was totally hoping you'd just be a complete mug and agree to the lot!
Make it the last favour you ever do her.

Gigglinghysterically · 24/05/2019 08:51

It would be the last time I ever did her a favour.

Grumpos · 24/05/2019 08:55

I would be very wary of helping her out again, sounds like she doesn’t take your feelings very seriously.

On a side note how are people saying take the dog to the RSPCA and say it’s been abandoned or leave the dog at a rescue centre? Are you for real. FML.

PonderingPanda · 24/05/2019 08:56

Have you replied to her message about the dog now being collected afterall?

If not, I'd message her, that it's great the dog is being collected and if it isn't it will have to go to a rescue centre.

I'm not convinced anyone will turn up otherwise

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