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AIBU?

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Last straw

14 replies

Becksr33 · 23/05/2019 22:43

So tonight I got a not so polite message off my brothers gf asking why I slagged her son of which I didn’t I simply said that her son is not my mums grandchild and she bothers with him more then my children. Which I got abuse called a cunt every swear word under the sun. I’ve only ever talked to my mum about her so it obviously was my mum causing trouble. Then I messaged my mum saying why did you tell her about our private stuff between me and you she lied and said she never.So I messaged my mum again and was like look stop lying have you been bitching then she just laughs and it’s like your being childish I won’t trust you again. Anyone got any advice my mum just seems toxic 😢

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AnneLovesGilbert · 23/05/2019 22:46

Don’t trust her again and don’t tell her things.

Halo84 · 23/05/2019 22:52

Cut your mother off for a month. No visits, no calls, don’t read or answer her texts. After that month, decide if your life is better with or without her.

ZippyBungleandGeorge · 23/05/2019 22:58

Well aren't you pleasant. DHs stepfather has been his dad since he was two years old, he's now 35, but members of FILs family still say DH isn't part of the family because he isn't 'blood'. You're nasty and petty, that's a child you're denigrating.

ZippyBungleandGeorge · 23/05/2019 22:59

Oh and your mother couldn't 'cause trouble' if you didn't say horrible things for her to repeat.

ifoundthebread · 23/05/2019 23:02

I was the kid who "wasn't an actual grandchild" and its so hurtful. I'm glad your brothers gf stood up for her son. Blood doesn't make family.

Ayemama · 23/05/2019 23:02

I have two step sons as well as my two kids and my mother (and the rest of my family) treats them all equally, the idea that she wouldn’t is awful. They are children and they are part of my family so they are part of hers.
Anyone who is jealous of a child really needs to look at themselves because it’s just pathetic.

WorraLiberty · 23/05/2019 23:05

Is this the brother's GF who has just had a baby with your brother?

You were bang out of order rubbing it in that he is not your mum's 'actual' grandchild just because he's not blood related. He's just had a new sibling who is blood related, so that must've really hurt her.

Your mum doesn't sound any better in this tbh.

My advice is for you all to take a long hard look at your own behaviours.

iano · 23/05/2019 23:06

You don't come out of this smelling of roses OP.

CrispbuttyNo1 · 23/05/2019 23:07

Such a shame Jeremy Kyle's show has finished.. This would be right up their street. 😁

SilverySurfer · 23/05/2019 23:07

I thought the Jeremy Vine Show had been cancelled.

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Becksr33 · 23/05/2019 23:11

Yes she should treat him the same that’s not my problem I don’t care if she sees him as a grandchild. No one is getting my point here what about my kids I’ve never said anything nasty just why doesn’t my mum bother with my kids as much

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sweeneytoddsrazor · 23/05/2019 23:15

Maybe you should have simply said Mum I think you favour DBs children over mine why is that? Instead you pointed out he wasnt her GC and yours were.

Rachelle11 · 23/05/2019 23:17

But you have said something nasty. You said her son wasn't her grandchild.

pallisers · 23/05/2019 23:22

Maybe you should have simply said Mum I think you favour DBs children over mine why is that? Instead you pointed out he wasnt her GC and yours were.

Seriously.

Your mum shouldn't have stirred it up but you need to get over this "real grandchild" thing. Talk to your mum as if he was a grandchild - "why do you have so little interest in my children" would be a start.

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