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To not go and see IL's? Could be long

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LowFatMilkshake · 20/07/2007 13:44

I am an only child and both my parents have passed away. I have aunts and cousins etc, but all live miles and miles away so although we keep in touch I dont see them from year to year.

So DH's family are basically - for better or worse my family now. The cloesest of who are I have MIL and FIL, GD and A and BIL and SIL and 2 DN's.

Since we had our DC@s and B&SIL had thiers my MIL has become quite funny and competitive about seeing them and where they used to be happy to bring DH's GD and A with them they now try not to include them.

GD is quite poorly at the mo and has had a terrible week, the last time he left his house was when IL's bought him to see us the last weekend in May. A who lives with him works full time and spends all her time at home looking after him and would like to get both of them out of the house to see us.

But IL's are being quite evasive and underhanded intrying to avoid it , including saying if GD was not well enough to go to BIL's last weekend, how come he can make a 90 minute journey to us this weekend. Failing to take in to account that BIL had a short notice change of plan too and that no actual day had been agreed.

So I have now told DH we should drive down to them this weekend (they all live within 5 minutes of each other) He can take the DC@s to see his parents and I will stay with his GD and A.

This is all the family I have and they are behaving like children - it makes me so cross.

There is a lot more to this story that include MIL feigning illness etc to avoid travelling with GD (as they can both only sit in the front of the car etc). But this is the most recent event and I am fuming from it.

Sorry - cant even prmose rant over!

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LowFatPumpkinJuice · 23/07/2007 16:47

Had an e-mail from A saying that nothing changes between her and me and the rest of them can get on with it..... but the whole episode has made GD run down, and he had a bad day yesterday which was why she was crying, not because of my e-mail.

I am so pleased to still be on good terms with A and if anything it has strengthened our friendship I think. She's still going to be GM to DS (as she is DD) and I have invited her to see us (by train) on Saturday ifGD can spare her.

But I still cannot understand how the rest of them call themselves a family!

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