Have name changed for this as potentially outing. I discovered by complete accident that my partner of 3 years is looking at another job almost 500 miles away, although still in the same country. I could not follow him there as I have shared custody of my son and would never dream of leaving him or taking him away. My partner knows this.
The job is his dream job (although I feel sooner or later it would more him but I would never tell him that). It's very early days and he hasn't been invited to an interview yet. I would love for him to get it but at the same time the thought of him leaving has completely crushed me. Deep down, I would probably love for him to not want it instead and for him to love me enough to stay but I know if he is offered it, he will take it. I'm not sure if I could cope with long distance. He had a long distance relationship with his ex after uni and he had an affair, I haven't even asked him if he would want that or if he would rather just move on completely but from my perspective, I think it would be difficult.
I am now left to face a long, drawn out wait to see if he is successful, and if so another long wait for him to leave (notice period alone is 3 months). AIBU to consider ending it now rather than put myself through so much potential pain? We work together so even if I do end it now I won't really be able to escape it. It's just so bloody hard. I want him to be happy and successful and follow his dreams and I want to support him every step of the way but it's breaking my heart.