Is anyone else sitting here on this lovely summer evening thinking WTF and feeling fed up

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DD is training with her team. DS is "studying" at his girlfriend's. DH has gone to meet a friend for drinks.

I work from home and am now sitting here realising that I have no one to meet up with of a summer's evening for a drink or a walk.

I'm not moaning (honest!) just wondered if anyone else has ended up feeling quite isolated in life and not quite sure how they got there.

Isthebigwomanhere - have you tried Meet up. I'm nowhere near Manchester, alas, but I've been looking at Meet up groups round here and I'm tempted by a couple.

Fir me, joining sports clubs has been great. Lots if fab women beating a ball with a stick and running around like lions, laughing at how crap we are

Join park run, local women's softball or cricket, lots of women's sports clubs appearing everywhere, I never met so many likeminded people so quickly . Knitting/sewing clubs, or art clubs, also very popular

Find local activities where you can just turn up

Running like loons, not lions, sadly

Feeling very fed up.

Have no one to sponsor me on charity things, no one to catch up with, no one to join in a hobby with, a shitty job that is 'as and when' and doesn't sustain me, another rejection after interview under my belt and I'm 'hoping' to be offered a shit part time job, but with regular hours.

ICantBelieve - hope the regular shit job turns up and then something better comes along.

Thanks all for keeping me company. I'm having an early night but the bird song is keeping me awake

Night namechanging thanks for listening. Off to bed here as well gonna watch the sun set over the sea from my bed and read my book. Dd still not speaking but at least she’s not chucking stuff anymore

I’m in the same boat, except I don’t have a husband either to keep me company so i’m often sat here when kids are in bed wondering if there’s something better out there. I’ve tried MeetUp etc but made no real connections. No one to meet up with, a couple have added me on fb but then invite others from the group but not me and when I suggest meeting up they say yes but never seem to free up any time for me.
I’ve tried dating but that’s depressing too.

Definitely not alone there, OP.

I do have friends, but DH has people he can just call if he feels like meeting up after work and I don't have anyone like that. Partly, TBF, as some of my closest friends have arty, freelancey jobs that don't involve being in central London 9-5 or regular hours full stop, whereas his closest mates work in town like him.

I do partly accept that as an adult, you don't see your mates all the much a lot of the time, but do wish I had someone 'on call' for those free moments.

I thought I'd enjoy the peace when dh had to work away for a week. I felt just like you. I tell myself the grass is always greener as I spent years with 2 small girls looking forward to peace🙄

The car said 23 degrees today. Back home later on, sitting outside, it was lovely.

It's hard to believe that in a few weeks time, I will be in the south of France, probably in temperatures of 35 degrees plus. It's just hard to appreciate the difference between 23 degrees and 35 degrees, when it's so pleasant at 23.

Oh, me too!
Lone parent, moved countries as an adult so no old school or uni friends around. I did make some new friends through work but all those have now moved away. I do get some social interactions through some other mums I have met but these are not close friendships.

Definitely not alone. I have friends but it's quite superficial. I could never have a birthday party as other than family I would not really have anyone to invite. My parents didn't really have any friends and I think I just lack social skills.
Arranging my DC birthday parties is so stressful for me as I'm always worried no one will turn up.
Sorry that became all about me!

Its actually the one thing that's stopping me moving at the moment, my friends. I have lovely, tight knit, long term friends nearby, so always someone to meet up with etc...
Problem is my area is rapidly going downhill fast ( but house prices in the area are rising) so we would love to move out soon, but I am terrified of being lonely, I know you can make friends, but they arent the same as your old lot, I dont think?
My sister and family all live in a really nice seaside town, and I know I would be happy living there. I am very close to my sister and aunt and their families, but it's a really difficult decision.

Same here
2 out of school ,won’t mix with others ,so that isolated me too.
Plus everyone has a job ,and a life.
I can’t work with these 2 having problems