Aibu to wonder if my parents are Alcholics

[spicypickel]

NC for this as it's just embarrassing my parents are nearly 50 had us when they was younger and went on to have four more kids together ranging now from 3 to 10.
They drink nearly every day and it isn't just one bottle of wine together it's four bottles together, mainly they drink booze in a can but if they have cans they'll buy a crate so say you get 3 for £20 or something in Asda they will have maybe 36 cans between them and they'll be gone in one night maybe two days.
The house is disgusting like actually disgusting they constantly have coughs or colds or vomiting bugs as nothing is ever cleaned properly or touched.
Us older lot sometimes babysit for the younger lot so they can go out but when they go out they have drunken fights and rows and come home separate kicking off then back to being in love the next day

, the thing that makes me wonder if they are alcoholics is that they can actually go a few days without drinking , and my mother actually works and holds the job down

They don't seem to even have hangovers and my dad can be drinking from 9am after the school run.
I don't even know why I'm posting here but it's just a joke now like I don't know what to do or say no more their attitude is shit and I feel sorry for my siblings being around them. I'm in my mid 20s I have my own kids to deal with without them on top of it. I don't know what to say writing letters would be of no interest to them probably laugh it off and call you a shit stirrer or say your being a dramatic

You describe a dangerous, excessive level of alcohol consumption, alongside the associated impact (arguments, disruptive family life like events missed due to alcohol consumption, or not being able to attend normal events without drinking).. alcoholic is definitely the case here.

However you also describe a lot of other toxic, dysfunctional family dynamics OP.. alcoholism is just one of many problems your family has, and my advice would be to step back from showing your own children that their consumption & behaviour is normal or acceptable.. if you want to be close to anyone, offer a safe haven for your younger siblings.

To be blunt.. Your family sounds like a Jeremy Kyle cluster fuck in sore need of counselling, parenting interventions & AA support!

Hey spoke to my mum about it she said she will cut down and it's my dad actually now who's putting her off drinking as the state he gets himself into, she seems to see where I am coming from my dad on the other hand I don't think will ever stop drinking he's back to drinking at 9am after school run and just nodding off on the sofa I think as summer is coming to he will become worse. I'm glad I've spoken to my mum though I don't know if she's serious as we've been here before but a start is good I guess. As for doing more with my siblings I think I will I mean they try for them but it's not enough the house needs to be taken apart and start again it's just filth everywhere I can help them do this but they never let me, I think for now best thing I can do is just try and suppprt them and take my siblings out more but I find that hard as when mine are together I have 5 kids to look after at once including them and it is difficult. Thanks to everyone for their help x

spicypickel experience says that unless they quit with medical support, by the time they've reached this stage, they can't just "cut down". They just get better at hiding it. I'll never forget the day I found a double duvet cover full (literally full) of empty wine bottles in my mum's airing cupboard after she'd "cut down"

Pressed post too soon. Was going to add that your mum is likely to find it even harder to control her intake because of your father's drinking as well. There will likely be complex codependent relationships going on as well